I can totally relate, and not just from the bride's perspective, whenever there's been a close wedding in the family, there's always that little bit of sadness when it's all over. Like all the guests from far have gone home, no more meeting up for dance practices, planning etc. and you having to go back to work and your normal life.
It will get better though, like someone else has said when you get your wedding pictures and your video you can re-live the good times.
Congrats Paheli, I am glad it went well and I hope you looked beautiful, as of course, I have a bias that the way you look is the most important aspect of your marriage ;).
Post wedding depression is perfectly normal. Change in life brings on depression, it's a fact, you are brave to admit your feelings in an open forum where ppl can pass judgement on them. But for what it's worth, all my friends burst out in tears in their bridal suites on the wedding night. And all the guys thought it was weird, and didn't know how to handle it.
I hope it doesn't happen to you, but if you do have bouts of sadness over the next year, know that a lot of brides have cried for no reason except for just plain old being inexplicably sad after their wedding day.
congratulations paheli! wish you all the best for your new life!
like others said- don’t worry- it’s completely normal to feel sad that it’s all over
guys seriously don’t understand how us girls feel about our wedding day- that we dream about it and play “bride” from the time we are little girls.. and it’s a day you can never get back (was actually talking to my husband abt this yesterday lol- he just didn’t get it)
anyway- just keep all the wonderful memories close to your heart and you’ll feel better soon
oh, and don’t dwell on the little things that went “wrong”- like me- it’ll just eat at you and make you crazy
LOL Contrarian @ girls being sad at being "off the market". Hubby (gawd this still is weird!) and I started dating over 3 years ago so I've considered myself "off the market" for quite a while.... :)
Reha: LOL....yep....the honeymoon planning will be fun! :) Right now we're trying to catch up on work, cleaning the disaster zone (aka our house), and also get our taxes in by the deadline!
Asiya: Forget next year.....I'm hoping to get over this phase in the next few weeks...lol. I think I really just need to focus on re-directing my energy into other activities. Once I have a routine started.....it'll be much better.
Those of you who mentioned feeling better after looking at pics....I'm starting to agree with you. I honestly do not have a single pic from the wedding. But 2 of the girls put up pics on FB today and I was looking at them...and in a weird way felt better. I'm expecting to get pics from my photographer by this weekend and the video by next week......so hopefully this phase will be over much faster once I have those.
Aww congrats Paheli, I remember you planning for months all over the wedding forum for your wedding, and I bet it’s passed in a whizz for you!
I’m not even married and even I get a bit sad thinking that I’ll get married soon (inshallah!) and leave my house
Pretty much all of my friends cried for days after their wedding, some of them cried over their honeymoon cos they were homesick and cos it’s just such a massive change. Sorry, that sounds depressing, but it’s actually a good thing they cried it out instead of repressing it!
It’s totally normal, like everyone said and after such a busy time where you haven’t had time to sit down and process your emotions, it’s bound to hit you quite hard when the wedding’s over!
Hope you feel a bit more normal soon!
Hi paheli… i have got married few months ago and believe me i was feeling the same thing i used to cry alot the 1st month was hard but on the other hand i was happy that i am with husband now… dont worry it will be ok soon just enjoy ur life plan ur honeymoon.. lots of duas for you stay blessed and happy and congrats
I can definitely relate as well. I was majorly depressed after my wedding because I had planned it for such a long time, we had mA so many family members that attended and overall it was nice to be finally married. But afterwards, we just fell into the same routine and I felt like my wedding didn't happen. It took me long time to adjust but eventually you get used to it. The photos and videos definitely help and my hubby made the adjustment alot more smooth. I think the biggest thing I had to adjust to was that life was very different than I thought it would be after I got married. I necessarily didn't have the adjustment period maybe others did because I went back to work right away and to adjust to being married was kind of hard. But inshallah things will run more smoothly, just enjoy the time you have right now and take things as they come.
I wouldn't know how it really feels...but I have a feeling I might go through something similar. I'm getting married in 1.5 months iA and for the past few months, it's just been all about planning this wedding. And while it gets quite overwhelming at times and I want to get it over with....I do realize that once it's done, I'm going to miss it. Also, in my case, I leave the continent 2 days after the wedding! So i leave my family, friends, all the relatives who'll be here for the wedding and go to a completely new place with my fiance. And that does make me wonder how I'll handle it. I already sometimes feel like crying thinking how homesick I'll feel.
But anyway, I hope you feel better soon! And just spend some time with your family and friends, maybe that'll help.
Its the 5th day and I feel much better! As each day goes by, the intensity from the wedding day is going away, I’m slowly going back to “normal life”. I saw a few pics friends took and that made me feel better. Now I’m looking forward to receiving the professional pics/video. At this rate…I think within a week or so all the negative feelings will go away.
I can totally relate.. Firstly congrats on your wedding! May Allah bless you both with a lifetime of happiness iA :)
I wouldn't say I was depressed per se after the wedding, but I was definitely feeling sad and kinda down. I think its the realisation that I wont be the 'Bride' again and the few days that I had invested all my emotions and energy into for the past year were finally over... I got married in October 2011 so just under 6 months ago, and Alhumdulillah my wedding was even more perfect than I had imagined.
I rememebr going back to work after my honeymoon and thinking 'Is this it', but it does definitely get better, esp when you look at your wedding albums and video..and of course your family and friends around you still will make you feel like a newly married bride :) The first few weeks and months after the wedding are very precious esp the honeymoon, so make the most of all the beautiful moments to follow :) All the best
Having all the extra free time immediately after the wedding...not having to "decide" on stuff or having meetings with vendors's freaked me out. Plus the stress, lack of sleep etc. from the week before caught up. Hubby and I both spent the week after just catching up on rest. Since then, we're starting to go back to our "normal" schedules and it's helping. The intensity of all the feelings immediately after the wedding is going away.
To be honest.....now looking back, I feel silly for getting stressed out for that one day....lol. I'm so much more happier with my "regular" stress-free life with hubby versus freaking out about the stupid day for MONTHS and even on that day, stressing over little stuff.
So yea....time is definately my friend in this case. :)
stay blessed and happy and congrats 