i just had m baby girl on Nov 13 i just feel really down and i am not able to explain to anyone how i feel. i have alot of help with the baby, dont know y but i feel like the biggest loser in the world i dont want anyone to come to my house or go anywhere.
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It is normal, talk to your doctor for help.
Re: depression after the baby
awww hugs. congrats for having such a bundle of joy ma sha Allah. To be honest, i get to hear from every other mom about their baby blues. So its pretty common and one gets over it soon too. So will you. The reasons could be so many. Some have no hekp. Some have help but no emotional support. For some its the sudden change in.life with the baby come that its pretty hard to assimilate. Even if I dont sound poliically correct, I would say baby does come with a shock, for the mother it does. Dont know the father’s part of the story. The little midget commands all your life and time lke no one ever did. So yes its hard. But then.everyone goes through this state and comes out fine too.
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I think, hormones coming back to routine 
Re: depression after the baby
see a psychiatrist for possible ‘post-partum’ depression before it gets worse. a lot of women get this type of depression. some get prepartum depression. it’s pretty common among women during their pregnancy.
my niece had this prepartum depression and she was so difficult to her hubby and his family…she got timely professional help and she got perfectly fine, alHamdlillah.
baby mubaarak ho…Allah use aapkii KhushiyoN kaa baa’is banaaye aur uskii deen o dunyaa donoN bahtareen kare…aameen
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hey Malka-e-tarannum-24 ji, be a pro in your advice. 
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I think it’s perfectly normal to feel like that. All the guests brought too much chaos and I just wanted to relax (especially since my baby had really bad colic, 6-8 hours a day, or night to be more exact). Also teamed with the fact that u still look 5 months pregnant with no baby inside is a bummer. So feeling ugly, fat, tired and short on sleep it should be no surprise that u feel down. Generally it goes away with time , but if u think it’s really bad and u have zero desire to spend time with ur baby then it would be better to seek help for post partum depression.
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lol 
I hope the OP appreciates the sense of humor 
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she will iA
Re: depression after the baby
I feel u need to spend more time with your baby. Take more care of him/her. The duties will keep mind occupied. Beyond that, try to sit outside for a while each day. or go for a walk, or shopping. Something. Force yourself, you’ll feel better once out.
As for biggest loser in the world, remember you are the WORLD for a little human being right now, your baby. You are his everything. So don’t think his everything is a loser, he certainly doesn’t. And that angel is a gift Allah gave you.
depression after the baby
Postpartum depression is very real and can be very serious. It happens to a lot of women and is not something you should feel bad about. Talk about it with your doctor and he/she can help you find the best solutions to get back to feeling 100%. Please don’t ignore it, and you are NOT a loser! 
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Thx u soo much u guys for the support …after a long labor and difficult I had my baby she is everything too me according to my sis I am getting upset easily,irritated and just want to be left alone .I crying for no reason and nothing with baby is easy first ,she got sick after delivery cuz I got fever in labor had to be given antibodies stayed extra days at the hospital then she is not breastfeeding.. This all makes me wonder how it easy for everyone else to breastfeed but me… I did make a appointment to go see my dr and talk to her about it
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Awwww hon…breastfeeding takes time to establish! Yes, some mommies and babies have success right off the bat and others struggle…but it is in no way an indicator of how good of a mother you are so please don’t let it get you down! If you are indeed suffering from PPD, dwelling on perceived “failures” will only make things worse for you!
Its perfectly okay okay to have a baby on formula only. Or maybe express/pump your bm and bottle feed that way. What your baby needs most is a relaxed and happy mommy!
The first 3 months are the hardest. After that you’ll settle into a routine.
Follow up with your doctor and try not to worry, ok?
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breastfeeding is not easy, so please dont beat yourself up about it if it doesnt come naturally.
Yes, there are some people who find it easy, but it is definitely hard work and takes a lot out of you. And dont feel like a loser if you cant do it 
Speak to your doctor or your maternal health nurse about how you’re feeling. It may not be Post Natal depression, and just the natural hormonal changes that make a woman feel like an emotional time bomb after childbirth. But, it is always a good idea to talk to someone… they can assess your situation and provide the best advice.
I wasnt diagnosed with post natal depression, but my health nurse did say I had depression..
remember, you need a lot of love and care from people around you (read “hubby”), to get through this. Most people forget the mother needs emotional stability, love and care after the birth… not just the baby.
Look after yourself. And dont feel like a loser.
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- breastfeeding is not easy. keep at it, and do what you need to do to make sure your baby is nourished, including giving formula if that seems best.
- postpartum depression is very real and can be very serious. see a doctor.
- go outside once a day. with or without baby. just try to change your environment and see people other than those in your home.
- you can do this. but you need to take care of yourself in order to take care of your baby.
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PPD is more common than you’d think. Seek help, talk to your doctor. Talk to a therapist if need be. There is no shame in seeking help.
Your husband or father of baby needs to be very involved in this key time, he needs to be able to give you relief and time away from the baby for you to try to return to normalcy.
The message is, THIS IS NORMAL, DON’T BE ASHAMED, SEEK HELP IF NEEDED.
Secondly, breastfeeding is not easy, ask your lactation consultant for help. Ask your husband for help. Get boppy pillows, get nipple guards, get various creams that help with sensitivity and soreness, there are even special herbal teas that help you. Don’t give up. The baby will eventually latch on and it will become second nature. The message is DON’T GIVE UP and DON’T LOSE HOPE. Again, your husband can be a big help here, he can be a cheer leader, he can help position the baby, etc.
Good luck and welcome to mommyhood.
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My son was also born the same date, except two years ago. I remember feeling exactly the same. I called the nurse line the day after coming home and cried so much that she didn’t let me hang up until she made sure someone was home with me.. She probably thought I would commit suicide. Bfing isn’t easy, I swear it’s much more difficult than rocket science. I saw hospital consultants, I paid private consultants, I watched the videos online, read every forum that had. Bfing advice on it, developed mastitis, and I had to introduce formulat at 3 weeks.. Couldn’t bf at all after 4 months. But you know, it’s not the end of world.. I still feel like I would have find it if I didn’t have other medical issues that needed attention and kept me away from my child for three days when he was only 3 weeks old.
You can do it… See the lactation consultants, if you don’t like one, ask for someone else.. Check out Kelly’s mom forum I think.. Pro bf with valuable information and advice.. Lady but not least concentrate on yourself and your child.. Take a hot shower if you feel overwhelmed to calm yourself down.. Seek professional help if you feel depressed. It’s not easy being a mom.. I wish someone had given me after birth lessons instead of the during labor breathing techniques. It would have helped more.
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thx u soo much u guys i did go see and my dr and now seeking help for depression … as far as bf is concern i am pumping and baby is latching on sometime.