Depression after marriage

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It’s not easy to say wrong. During 7 years of marriage I hv tried many time to tell him just take a break sometime hug and kiss enough to show love. But he says
Tum nashukeri biwi ho. Thume pyar wala husband mila hai. Werna girls taristi hai. Thume daily bins mange jo mil jata hai is liye nakray krti hn.
Wt do I do??
If u r not agree mentally or mentally attachment nahi thou kaise yah
Most of time I can’t enjoy him just do his work.
Now itni depression lagti hai I say to him leave me and jao do second marriage who achi mil jayegi aur nashukri bhi nahi hogi.! I want death bas.

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Depression is like this. I can’t enjoy any moment. I am like kay koi kuch kah raha main kuch aur son rahi ho aur kuch aur hi samjh rahi ho. I am forgetting too much. Even sometimes I hv to think many times ka subha kiya khaya tha. Doctor kay pass jao thou I can’t tell all to him I forget something to tell. Absolutely blank ho jati ho if someone asks abut yesterday.
I can’t do anger due to this that’s y I hv digest all time and discuss to him or his family. Absent minded all time

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**zaiena **Beti It is clear that you are aware of and admit that you have depressive feelings, that in itself is a plus being fully aware of ones own condition and the causes.

you think you cannot do much about it at the moment.

I think since you already know what your Husband likes and dislikes then you can adjust your time for him and keep your remarks positive!

You have two beautiful children, that is a great blessing Masha Allah! you should know by now both of you that it all about raising those children, that is your No1 priority!

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How you used to pass time when you were single going out and shopping etc is good to remember,

however now your priorities have changed keep that in mind!

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Well he clearly doesn’t trust you. He comes off as really insecure.

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she could be suffering vitamin d deficiency and especially magnesium deficiency which can lead to depression.

i suggest she takes a magnesium supplement or eats lots of nuts.

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Thanx that what I wanna ask wt to do??
I hv vitamin D supplement will start from tomorrow.
Due to absent minded, I can’t krep anything continue till long time but try to eat.

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Your husband sounds like a secks addict.

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His statement is
Never trust on anyone 100% . He or she will deceive u. Even don’t trust on mum too.
But I hv complain that itna trust tho kro that u share with me ur problems and give importance kay mri bat mano thou sahi.
He never share paise kahn day a rahay kahn jah rahay always he keeps with his statement. Business acha jah rahay ya nahi . He always discusses all with his mum from the first day. And hide it and other all things related to his family ‘s current doing from me.
His mum decided apnay Betsy ki shadi with one of my relatives. Kisi nay nahi batya. Engagement kay aik din phalay bata rahay hai who bhi main chila main thi. 4 saal engagement rahi. They never talk with about them. Bas eid pr sath chalo aur who aye thou un ko serve kro. Who mujhe Salam tak nahi kr rahay no problem. I am elder bahu koi Izat nahi krwai. Aur thou aur saas un kay sath batien krti aur jo who kahtay who thk samjh thi. They blame me on my mum that she is saying bad about in laws to everyone . 3 times aisa hua but he never say anything. Apni ama kay samnay silent. Is liye kahti thi mujhe lay kr separate ho jao who bhi nahi. Ama permission day thou na.
MRI koi izat nahi I am not Ghr ka Banda. 2 bahu aye is nay bhi same kiya in ko dakh kr. Phalay dosti ki sari reality jaan kr phr mujhe zaleel kiya. Tab bhi yah silent.
Now wt do I do. Relatives wali larki ki shadi hogye who hum Sab joint family main rah rahibho. Us ki shopping bahir dine out krna almost daily hai main kahon thou larai. Who aur baqi Bhai bhi branded kapray lay main bachon ka kaon thou said un ko gandi habit na adopt krnay do phr aam kapray nahi pahnao gaye. I got angry. Kaise convince kro kal ko un kay bachay hon Gaye who apnay bachay ko branded day gaye thou hamaray bachay feel nahi kare gaye.

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I don’t wanna go out single I prefer my husband and children. But he isn’t willing to go with me. Us ki family ka yah mri family ka plan kr lay thou thk. Otherwise not.

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Actually I hv nobody to guide me rightly or motivat me. That’s I go down whenever husband doesn’t listen me. Aur bhi bahu a gaye hai un kay husband parents ko zaida interfe nahi krnay datay. Even they go out on their anniversary and birthday to celebrate but my hubby always celebrates with his family at home. Now agr all time parents ko dakhna tha thou shadi q ki. Koi bhi bat kaho thou parents ko nahi chorna. Relatives ki jo bahu aye ahi is nay saas ko itna badghumaan kr diya gai she always in fight mood. Kuch wrong hua nahi she starts scolding.
Bachay r priority. Is liye now I don’t say anything related to me. I talk about their best school, their shopping, their outing. Children also want to go out for swing or playing in park. But once in 2 yah 3month he ready to go. Wt do I do

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In 1968, Wacker and Parisi reported that magnesium deficiency could cause depression, behavioral disturbances, headaches, muscle cramps, seizures, ataxia, psychosis, and irritability - all reversible with magnesium repletion. Stress is the bad guy here, in addition to our woeful magnesium deficient

you may also be suffering POST NATAL DEPRESSION.

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Magnesium - The Most Important Female Supplement | Blog | Kelly Brogan

I sometimes think about what supplements I might grab in a house fire, and magnesium is one of them.
I’d never diminish the evidence-based power of B vitamins, fatty acids, and fat soluble-vitamins like A, D, and K, but if I want one mineral that does it all, magnesium is it.
Understood to participate in over 300 enzymatic reactions in the body, this mineral was recently identified to have 3,751 binding sites on human proteins and may be critical in answering the question: How does human complexity emerge from so few genes?
On a more technical level, magnesium is an essential NMDA receptor modulator, which is a brain chemical port that regulates the actions of the excitatory neurotransmitter, glutamate. It’s also critical for the production of cellular energy (ATP), and SAMe, the body’s major methyl donor and precursor to important agents like neurochemicals, fatty acids, and antioxidants.
In many ways, having enough magnesium allows the body to do what it does best.
Depression, Anxiety, PMS, Headaches Magnesium has been demonstrated to be a rapidly effective intervention for depression, likely related to its role in regulating neuronal function through calcium flux in and out of cells, and potentially its role in optimal thyroid function—an underactive thyroid is a known cause of depression.
Magnesium is also critical for those struggling with PMS, including premenstrual migraines, irritability, low mood, and cramps. Of women supplemented with a conservative dose of 250mg daily for three months, 34% experienced relief of PMS. Similarly, by the second month of treatment with magnesium, women with PMS experienced improvement in mood and pain in a randomized, controlled trial.
In a randomized, blinded, cross-over trial, magnesium with B6 was effective in relieving PMS-related anxiety and menstrual migraines. If women are cycling with low levels of magnesium, then they enter pregnancy depleted (up to 70% of women do), go on to deliver and breastfeed, and the cumulative deficiency may play an important role in the onset of postpartum depression.
Importantly, magnesium may have anti-inflammatory properties, as was found in a study of women consuming the mineral dietarily.
How to Take it? Magnesium occurs in leafy green vegetables, nuts, and seeds, and is notably depleted by stress, alcohol, sugar, and sodas (high in phosphoric acid). As discussed by Dr. Stephanie Seneff and Anthony Samsel, the herbicide glyphosate (used on genetically modified crops including corn, soy, vegetable oils, and sugar) chelates minerals in the gut, including magnesium. Above and beyond the daily recommended allowance, many women benefit from doses of magnesium in the 5-800mg range.
My preferred product is magnesium chelated to glycinate (as in mag glycinate) or taurate which are inhibitory amino acids. However mag citrate may be used if a more osmotic effect is sought after (think constipation). Dividing doses throughout the day (say, with each meal) may be helpful if you get loose stools, but magnesium may have a calming effect that is preferable at night.
For my patients struggling with insomnia, incorporating an Epsom salt bath into your nightly ritual helps warm the body and provides a healthy dose of this sought-after mineral.
Conventional doctors are well-aware of the power of this nutrient—it’s used in hospitals for constipation, heart arrhythmias, seizures and contractions in pregnancy—but they seem to forget about it when they sit down behind their desks in the office. Use this information to experience the power of nature’s natural relaxant.

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zaiena, could you start writing about your feelings every day? Just write. Write about what’s going on, how you feel, and how you want to deal with the situations. Just write.

Then make an appointment with your doctor. Tell him/her you are depressed and you need to see a therapist. I don’t know what your financial situation is like, and if it would be possible to visit a therapist weekly. See if that is possible. You need to be able to talk to someone.

In the meantime, until you find a therapist, keep writing. Given that you don’t have anyone to talk to, writing helps us get our emotions out, and then once they are on the paper, it makes it easier to think about solutions and how to handle the situation.

If you get to a place where you feel like you have tried everything/nothing is working, you will soon reach a place where you will decide you will live your life and be happy regardless of how your husband behaves. It’s possible to get there, you just need to get it all out and write about it. Of course, make sure your husband does not get his hands on it.

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Do poeple like to hang around you? Are you an interesting person? Do you have a passion? Hobby?
It’s naive to expect your spouse to entertain you or be like the high school boy who used to call you and tell you about your clothes or make up.

Develop yourself. And he will look forward to talk to you, and even if he doesn’t you will not need him.

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You have been married 7 years. Any kids? Have you even considered having kids? Maybe this is where the problem lies.

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Do Zikr/Tasbeeh of Allah its the only thing that gives sakoon-e-qalb