Re: Depression after marriage
Zaiena, you have given us very little information about your marriage and that makes it harder for us to give you advice. Suggestions will be based on guesswork at best. Aap ne khud hi apni problems identify kar li hain: depression and a negative soch.
If there are certain baatain/conversations that irritate your husband, then maybe it’s better to avoid them. Timing is important, too. For example, when your husband returns home after a tiring day of work…that’s not the best time to bombard him with complaints. I don’t know if you live with your in-laws or not…but if you have issues with them…then you’ll have to pick and choose your battles. People tend to be defensive about their family members and you can’t change them. You have to push yourself to let some things go. I don’t know what kinds of “discussions” you’re having with him that result in a big “NO”…because you haven’t told us anything. We can’t read your mind. So, how can we tell you whether you’re right or wrong? Keep yourself busy in various activities so that you’re not constantly dwelling on your husband. It’s important to be able to vent your feelings to your husband, but listening to negativity all the time is exhausting; thak jata hai banda. People are more drawn/attracted toward a positive attitude and energy and language, but depression hinders that ability. Seek treatment for the depression if you believe that you legit have it.