Hi ..
I want to ask what to do if u don’t find a way to go in your life? I m an fsc student..pre medical .. I m repeating my fsc exams and MCAT too..
Most of the time my brother keeps on telling me u are a looser and that u can’t get admission on merit..i know i ll succeed in scoring 80% and get admission in private medical college this year in sha Allah.. But something that always bothers me is i can’t put my efforts into working harder.. I do but not as much as i can!
I feel a lack of interest..i always loved doing creative things..it makes me feel i chose a wrong profession ..
Can’t sleep at nights.. Cry and m v much depressed!
What should i do? My dad want me to be a doctor..ok i ll be a doc! But my interests?I don’t wanna work my whole life .. And study TOO much..
Please suggest me what should i do
Many friends of mine say that if u get a chance to get admission in medical college don’t loose the chance and your interest will develop automatically..
And another reason y it bothers me is the HUGE fee structure of Pvt.Medical colleges.. My dad will have to pay almost 7 lac per year.. He is already giving my brother’s fee who is studying engineering..
My heart says something else and my mind says something else..
I m such a confused person..and if i ask this to my family they tell me to show them results..
I can’t study day and night at least.. I will score good.. I know i can..plz help me ..
Depression is a strong word. Maybe it is a bit of self doubt you are having. If that is the case, welcome to the club. Everyone has it. You do the best you can. And don't worry about the results. If your efforts are sincere, success will be yours.
Life comes only once. Don't be scared. Enjoy the process. Good luck.
a little hard work NOW, will bear fruits of financial stability and a sense of purpose. medical field is so self gratifying because you know that you are helping the humanity. don't you think this little extra effort is worth it? i think it is!
As unromantic as it sounds, in life, you do more of what you have to do, and less of what you want to do.
First of all, stop thinking of yourself as a loser. Let your parents know that your are working hard and at this time need encouragement and have them talk to your brother to stop calling you names.
Second, organize yourself. Figure out your distractions and minimize them. Facebook, socializing, tv time, chatting ..and all that. Bring in more of positive activities in your schedule, like gym, prayers and family time. Pick a hobby that you are passionate about and bring it into your daily routine. But most importantly, learn how to maintain a daily calendar.
Just remember that people who get into medical school are not more intelligent than you are. They are just more organized, enthusiastic and optimistic than you are. All these qualities are well within your control.
Depression is a strong word. Maybe it is a bit of self doubt you are having. If that is the case, welcome to the club. Everyone has it. You do the best you can. And don't worry about the results. If your efforts are sincere, success will be yours.
Life comes only once. Don't be scared. Enjoy the process. Good luck.
I m always comfused i would be able to proove myself? .. That is the reason i always think too much and waste my time too..
Depression is a strong word. Maybe it is a bit of self doubt you are having. If that is the case, welcome to the club. Everyone has it. You do the best you can. And don't worry about the results. If your efforts are sincere, success will be yours.
Life comes only once. Don't be scared. Enjoy the process. Good luck.
I m always confused if i would be able to prove myself? .. That is the reason i always think too much and waste my time too..
As far as enjoyment is concerned it is minimal in my life :)..
I have been a looser in my personal life too ..i have no friends either
a little hard work NOW, will bear fruits of financial stability and a sense of purpose. medical field is so self gratifying because you know that you are helping the humanity. don't you think this little extra effort is worth it? i think it is!
Go Girl, Go!!! :)
Hmm it is ! :) i do wanna be a part of medical field.. The aggregate of last year merit list was least 87% .. :/ i said i could get admission in private easily..but see the same thing the fee issue .. :/ i keep asking my mom what if i get admission and dad doesn't pay for it? ..
My mom says to just stop worrying.. Only she is someone who encourage me..no one else!
I know it is a best field..i always loved painting..designing etc.But i left everything..i didn't touch my paints for last 3 years :) because i don't want it to be my profession..
Definately! Working hard will be difficult but i ll bring a lot for me
I need positive people like u around me :D but they are not! No body cares how i feel and how to help me out :(
As unromantic as it sounds, in life, you do more of what you have to do, and less of what you want to do.
First of all, stop thinking of yourself as a loser. Let your parents know that your are working hard and at this time need encouragement and have them talk to your brother to stop calling you names.
Second, organize yourself. Figure out your distractions and minimize them. Facebook, socializing, tv time, chatting ..and all that. Bring in more of positive activities in your schedule, like gym, prayers and family time. Pick a hobby that you are passionate about and bring it into your daily routine. But most importantly, learn how to maintain a daily calendar.
Just remember that people who get into medical school are not more intelligent than you are. They are just more organized, enthusiastic and optimistic than you are. All these qualities are well within your control.
I don't have all these activities :) i don't have a facebook account..my brain keeps me busy .. Lol either in thinking,worrying or studying :P honestly i was the brightest student in my school and do not lack anything that medical students have!
I m always comfused i would be able to proove myself? .. That is the reason i always think too much and waste my time too..
T, further to what TLK said already, you do not need to prove yourself. Your loved ones already know you inside out. They are all that matter, isnt it? if you are going to add to the burden by putting yourself through useless stress, you will be losing out on the bigger game.
I think you just need to change your attitude a bit. Think positive, be positive. Dont worry too much about letting others down, because even if you arent able to make it to med school, will life end there?no , it wont. doors will open again that will surprise you too.
My parents wanted me to become a doctor too. I was undergoing exact same dilemma as you are now. I rebelled my way out of medical and only god knows how much I regret it today. But having said that, life didnt close its doors on me, I did go on to become a strong career woman. I found my feet and training in Business Consultancy and Recruitment. Proved mettle and got published in newspapers even for my achievements. So always remember, life doesnt stop. there will always be doors opening and closing around you. Keep yourself flexible.
About your brother, siblings can be bullish sometimes, just learn to tackle him back rather then letting him get to you. Have utmost confidence in yourself and what you are doing. Can you meet a few very experienced doctors in the family or hospitals and explore to see what their life is now and what their experiences are? would they regret doing medicine? etc ask them these questions.If you can find an opportunity shadow a doctor for a few days and that will help you settle your feelings.
Between TLK and chicken biryani, they covered everything. But let me re-emphasize:
Your brother is a douche. Ignore him. You will inshallah prove him wrong.
Do you think you will ever get the time and opportunity to get into a medical school again? Probably not. This is your time to shine. Make the most of it.
Finally, all you can do is work hard. Outcome is with Allah ta'ala. So don't fall short on the hard work portion. Put in all you have and inshallah you will get admission on merit.
<<T, further to what TLK said already, you do not need to prove yourself. Your loved ones already know you inside out. They are all that matter, isnt it? if you are going to add to the burden by putting yourself through useless stress, you will be losing out on the bigger game.
I think you just need to change your attitude a bit. Think positive, be positive. Dont worry too much about letting others down, because even if you arent able to make it to med school, will life end there?no , it wont. doors will open again that will surprise you too.
My parents wanted me to become a doctor too. I was undergoing exact same dilemma as you are now. I rebelled my way out of medical and only god knows how much I regret it today. But having said that, life didnt close its doors on me, I did go on to become a strong career woman. I found my feet and training in Business Consultancy and Recruitment. Proved mettle and got published in newspapers even for my achievements. So always remember, life doesnt stop. there will always be doors opening and closing around you. Keep yourself flexible.
About your brother, siblings can be bullish sometimes, just learn to tackle him back rather then letting him get to you. Have utmost confidence in yourself and what you are doing. Can you meet a few very experienced doctors in the family or hospitals and explore to see what their life is now and what their experiences are? would they regret doing medicine? etc ask them these questions.If you can find an opportunity shadow a doctor for a few days and that will help you settle your feelings.>>
Thank u so much :)
I ll try to follow rverything u said..
I m too young and yeah at this age i get into difficult situations and i don't find ways to come out of it ..
Life surely won't stop..
My cuzn is a doctor and he said don't do medicine because for a girl it is hard to balance her life ..with family and work..he instead of helping me out made me confused and sometimes i ask my mom:ME BSc. Hi kar lu? ..
She encourages me...i love bio and my marks are also v good!..i think once i ll start i ll enjoy it..actually need somebody to remind me i can lol :P :) i was so much tensed so i asked help to you all who are much more experienced than me in many ways :) thank u so much !
STAY blessed sister :)
Between TLK and chicken biryani, they covered everything. But let me re-emphasize:
Your brother is a douche. Ignore him. You will inshallah prove him wrong.
Do you think you will ever get the time and opportunity to get into a medical school again? Probably not. This is your time to shine. Make the most of it.
Finally, all you can do is work hard. Outcome is with Allah ta'ala. So don't fall short on the hard work portion. Put in all you have and inshallah you will get admission on merit.
If you don't want to go into medical, then have a talk with your parents. Let them know what you feel.
My dad is never going to understand :) he doesn't even have time to ask me about anything or my progress..So i don't want to get scolded by him instead of getting understood ..
:hmm: i did actually be doesn’t say anything but i know he won’t like me doing anything..he never forced me either..but i do want to make him happy he is my dad.. he ask me to study only for my betterment ..lets see GOD knows
T , find your feet in medicine. I will give you another example. I belong to a family of doctors , my cousin sister was pushed into medicine as well by the family. She hated it from day one. However family didnt allow her to quit and so she carried on. Finished her MBBS , thats when she decided she didnt want to do her internship and instead wanted to go a totally different route , like Sales , Medical Insurance , tried a few different things and within a year realized that the respect and stability element in a doctor's life is much higher than other professions that she tried.
She then focused back her attention to find a role within her qualification area and eventually found a role in hospital administration and is doing extremely well now MA Shaa Allah .
Point being, you are not just training to become a doctor. Its a very wide field with alot of scope to do different things . I suggest you keep at it and In Sha Allah , you will find your way soon.
Good luck. Also try to do the degree for yourself, not because your dad is pressurizing you to. It will only make things so much easier for you :)
I too want to do medical now :) hehe yeah the respect and all it is important too :) and medical itself is a noble profession..in sha Allah i know i will get admission this year.. :) and will try working hard..thank u for helping me .. U know when i ask someone everyone give a different suggestion and it gets me confused again..i did score v good last year ..m repeating this year..i know i'll get good marks this year! Much much better than last year comparatively ..
be doesn’t say anything but i know he won’t like me doing anything..he never forced me either..but i do want to make him happy