just recently found out few days ago i am pregnant…was happy but depress to at the same time
i have a 2 and half yr old son and i wanted him to be 5 yrs b4 i had another one
i just feel so sick and my son doesnt let me rest he isnt ready to eat himself and i am finding it very hard to feed him with my hands coz of vomitting… he isnt getting potty trained
i am just so stressed out i have no one to help me i am alone=( my husband is busy studying for his exams as he needs to pass his final exams my mom who would have helped me alots and look after me is suffering cancer she is on her chemotrapy treament
how should i cope with his all stituation this vommiting sickness and tired is just killing me…
You know, I think it is better to have kids closer together. They will be such a gift for each other, and you will do great as a mom to both of them. This is a tough time, but it is temporary, and you will get through it soon!
Your husband can't help at all? You could talk to him about AT LEAST being in charge of taking care of/feeding/changing your son when he is at home, except at certain times when he is studying..
I can seem really difficult, but inshallah you'll find a way to manage everything with time. try no to stress too much hun, it's d last thing you need whilst being pregnant & a mother to a lil one.
I think sahar02 has given sound advise … this phase sounds very very tough , but is temporary , so have faith and keep your strength … What can help you in such a time is planning … for example , when you are feeling a little better , make one or two foods and freeze them .. Make some baby food in advance and refrigerate it ..
Does your situation allow you to have a maid for a few months? or perhaps get a weekly maid service to deal with the day to day chores … If not , then just learn to let go .. relax , you dont have to do laundry every week … use disposible plates and spoons so you dont have to worry about doing the dishes … use pampers for your child all the time , so you dont have to worry about clearing after him .. its easier to change the nappy then run after the child every few hours … ask hubby to keep aside just half hour or an hour aside per day to help with some chores .. and in that you can get him to do the tasks that are heavy and need energy .. eg , loading the washing machine , changing bedsheets , cleaning the bins, cutting up vegetables etc etc … you can also get some canned food so you dont have to do everything from scratch …
Its the stress bit that gets to the mind , so keep yourself relaxed .. and the trick is to find shortcuts to work, and try to get some work done when you are feeling less ill and less fatigued .. you are a strong girl , inshalah you will get through this difficult time
Also, if you have friends in the area...have you thought of maybe swapping services? These days, a lot of people can't afford to hire someone to come in and help out with domestic chores. If you can, then I'd say go for it. You'd be surprised how big of a load off it can be to have somebody come in just once or twice a month to thoroughly clean the house and maybe do some cooking.
But if you don't have the means right now, then take a moment to think about your skills/talent. Perhaps you're decent at sewing. Your friend needs some pants hemmed. So maybe in exchange for the tailoring, your friend can watch your kids for a few hours on the weekend while you get some much needed sleep. You can even do this "exchange" with hubby. Part of being a student is a lot of busy work...finding books at the library, making copies, basic internet research, etc. So do some googling and print out some helpful articles for his next research paper. This will free up his schedule a bit so he can spend time with the kids. And you can just get away mentally for a little while and concentrate on a very non-stressful task.
Even if the kid is 5 .. he is still a kid and will still be handful and you will have the morning sickness and will still have to attend a 5 year old even if he is potty trained, u will running to the bathroom to clean after him, even if he is 5 and can eat himself, u will still have to cook for him and make sure he eats and sit with him. And he would want to play with you or do things that a normal 5 year old does.
so what will change nothing, ur morning sickness will still be there, even if he is 2 and a half or 5 .. both ways it will be a hard time for u.
make the best out of your situation and IA the morning sickness will go away and then u will be fine.
ahhhhh i can understand when u r alone how it feels.......... i agree wth above arrange some maid for some time who can help you n ask ur huby 2 spare 1 hr for ur help n if this is not possible since ur mum cant come.......... any sis or MIL who can help you call her for a while.............. n i hope so u get better soon my prayers r wth u tc
awwww congratulations ......and dear pregnancy is a emotional roller coster.....your son is 2 and a half and trust me its the best gap in your kidz...dont worry at all if hes not diaper trained just let it go at least for these 3-4 months and try later do not stress out yourself and pressurize him...he will be trained soon..just go slow....if he doesn't want to eat himself thats okey...just start sitting beside him with your meal infront and pursue him to follow you and dad...but again do not pressurize him ...just give him sometime too...kidz are sensitive and very good observer just talk to him you r not feeling okey and how if he will listen to you he can make you better....i have three of them 5,4 and one and a half....feeling upset on pregnancy news(except first one;) is normal...but dear time flies and one day you will remeber all of this...i understand doing all this all alone is difficult but dear becoming a mom is something so precious that trust me you want to take full credit for that....just do chores when you feel you can do them and if you can't leave it for other time ......wish you best of luck and lots n lots of prayers for you.
Even if the kid is 5 .. he is still a kid and will still be handful and you will have the morning sickness and will still have to attend a 5 year old even if he is potty trained, u will running to the bathroom to clean after him, even if he is 5 and can eat himself, u will still have to cook for him and make sure he eats and sit with him. And he would want to play with you or do things that a normal 5 year old does.
so what will change nothing, ur morning sickness will still be there, even if he is 2 and a half or 5 .. both ways it will be a hard time for u.
make the best out of your situation and IA the morning sickness will go away and then u will be fine.
yeah u are right sickness will be the same but a 5 yrs start full time school so it would have been easy taking some rest and sleep while he is at school and 5 yrs can play on his own and eat with his own hands and understand things like mama is not well go do this......
awwww congratulations ......and dear pregnancy is a emotional roller coster.....your son is 2 and a half and trust me its the best gap in your kidz...dont worry at all if hes not diaper trained just let it go at least for these 3-4 months and try later do not stress out yourself and pressurize him...he will be trained soon..just go slow....if he doesn't want to eat himself thats okey...just start sitting beside him with your meal infront and pursue him to follow you and dad...but again do not pressurize him ...just give him sometime too...kidz are sensitive and very good observer just talk to him you r not feeling okey and how if he will listen to you he can make you better....i have three of them 5,4 and one and a half....feeling upset on pregnancy news(except first one;) is normal...but dear time flies and one day you will remeber all of this...i understand doing all this all alone is difficult but dear becoming a mom is something so precious that trust me you want to take full credit for that....just do chores when you feel you can do them and if you can't leave it for other time ......wish you best of luck and lots n lots of prayers for you.
thanks alots u are right beinf pregnant is a precious thing....
i just do wot i can i dont bother with things tht can be done later
i just hope my hard time pass soon=)
Don't worry...Allah will make it easy for ..i know because there is only a2 yr difference between my two and at the time the eldest was not sleeping, eating AND to top it off i had my in-laws come tostay for six months. I remeber having contractions whilst trying to make parathas for them!!! As it turned out..by the time the second one was born, eldest was potty trained, sleeping through the night and had begun to feed himself!!! Have faith in Allah..maybe this is what is good for you!!!
no friends around to help?