The other day on QTV I saw a show where ppl call in with their maslay. Anyways some lady called in saying her husband has said tallaq three times and whether they were actually divorced or not. Obviously she was but her question was so submerged in denial that i couldnt help but feel sorry for her. Yes it takes three words in less than three seconds to end everything you have sacrficied for all your life. I don’t know whose fault it was and i dont care but it annoys me that a man can disown a woman within microseconds whereas a woman has to ask for it and it is entirely upto him whether he wishes to consent to the divorce. Ok now i have ranted myself out.
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Do you know that in Islam husband can give right of divorce to wife also? and then she can take "KHALA" also if she want to.
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This is really sad. There is a difference of opinion. Some scholars say that a divorce given three times in one sitting only counts as one divorce, and that a divorce given in anger may not be valid either. Too many men abuse this right.
Adding the right of khula to a contract is common among muslims from other cultures (than south asian). When we were planning our nikkah, a desi imam wouldn't marry us because he thought that my contract was too detailed, and said it was haraam for me to ask for the right of divorce. So we got married in a larger mosque that was mostly Arab, and the sheikh said it should be in my contract, and that he wouldn't marry a couple unless they added it, because it's for the protection of the girl.
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Exactly she has to ask for a khula whereas the husband had the opportunity to work on a marriage but a woman doesnt get that chance.. once those three words slip.. its over within seconds its over.. thats my point. And how can talaq not count in anger?
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I occasionally watch this program too, just the other a young girl broke down in tears live on air, because she had no-one to talk to or help her...not even her own family were being supportive.