**Frm a book… Muharramat (Forbidden matter some people take lightly) Muhammad Salih Al-Munajjid **
Allah (Subhaanahu wa ta’aala) says:
[Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and to protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do.]
(Qur’an 24:30)
The Prophet (Sal-Allaahu 'alayhe wa sallam) said: “The adultery of the eyes is by looking.” *
Looking for a legitimate purpose is exempted from this rule, such as looking at a woman for marriage purposes, or a doctor examining a patient for medical reasons, etc. Women are equally forbidden to look at non-mahram men, as Allah (Subhaanahu wa ta'aala) says:
[And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc)…] (Qur’an 24:31)
Men are also forbidden to look with desire at a man with a hairless or beautiful face. Men are forbidden to look at the awrah of other men, and women are forbidden to look at the awrah of other women. If it is forbidden to look at something, it is forbidden to touch it, even over clothing. One of the ways which Shaytan deceives people is by making them think there is nothing wrong with looking at pictures in magazines or watching movies, because what is seen is not “real,” even thought such images clearly cause so much damage by provoking desires.*
so basically this means that looking at someone with lust is forbidden (haram).
but is it also forbidden to admire one’s appearance…not in the bad context…
Character is like a photograph, it develops in darkness
Yusuf Karsh
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Originally posted by waqas72:
**in otherwords poke out your eyes , cut out your tongue, chop off your ears, nose hands, feet and.. um.. stuff! this is the only way to salvation!
extra credit for those who manage to blow their brains out too!
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What is that supposed to mean? Are u saying its allowed to do so? or what?
'One of the ways which Shaytan deceives people is by making them think there is nothing wrong with looking at pictures in magazines or watching movies, because what is seen is not “real,” even thought such images clearly cause so much damage by provoking desires.'
..time to eat all your words, swallow your pride..open your eyes..
Man that was hilarious. I know that there is a hadith which says “first look is allowable but not the second”, but this does not mean that a person can look or stare at someone for the first time without blinking his/her eye
at the same time we are all human and we all make mistakes. Not grave ones I hope but little ones. I am not saying that it is ok to lustfully gaze at someone BUT at the same time it is also almost impossible. That is the thing...
Muslims strive for perfection yet perfection is unatainable. We are all human and we WILL make little mistakes. Its all about the BIG mistakes (Kabira Mistakes).
Traying to make ourselves better people is what Islam is all about. Its like a goal that you can never reach till the day of Kiyamat yet you try your hardest and Allah is Most Forgiving.
My theory is TRY to aviod small mistakes as hard as possible (yet we can not do it always, we are still humans), stay totally away form BIG mistakes, if you make a small mistake ask for forgiveness as pray that Allah gives you the power to stop sinning.
Agar ghaltian insaan say nahin hoon gi to aur kis say hoon gi! Subhan'Allah!
And being a student does not make it easy. Ohh well, all we can do is try our best.
I agree! But easier said than done, being a male I can't help noticing every lady who passes my sight of vision every second of the day and when I do, I feel guilty!
Lowering the gaze is difficult my friends and sometimes even worse! But you are right to say that we must do our best.
Come to think of it ALL tv is fitna then? In the sense that we are brain washed with physical standards that the opposite sex must have be it a 36-24-36 whatever or gori chitti or tall or short and we (I) can't help but judge people initially on that!
"Woaah she's fit", "Rasmalai" comments like this breed this feeling as well.
What to do? I found that keeping the mind occupied with work or Dhikr helps.