Delaying having kids after marriage for few years?

[chacha_Ghalib]

Re: Delaying having kids after marriage for few years?

@Marmalade

One of the reasons why the divorce rate is higher in Western countries is because divorce is not a taboo like it is in Eastern countries. There is not enough social pressure on couples to force them to stay together like there is in the East. If they’re not happy in their marriage they get divorced. That generally doesn’t happen in the East. It doesn’t mean people in the East have happier marriages.

@Deeba1234

Saudi Arabia is right up there with a divorce rate comparable to the USA (around 60%) so this whole east v west, love v arranged thing when it comes to ‘successful’ marriages is a myth (and one that desi aunties esp love to throw around lol) and as has already been pointed out lower rates of divorce in countries like India and Pakistan tend to have a lot to do with social stigma, dependency on the husband etc. as much as anything else..

I was addressing an argument made by several people in this thread. According to them, you should only have kids once you are sure you are compatible with each other and that the marriage will last. By this logic, you should never have kids because apparently knowing each other well doesn’t seem to prevent divorces. This is quite apparent from the high divorce rate in the west despite people knowing each other and living together for ages before deciding to marry and having kids. The reason why divorce rates are low in eastern countries doesn’t have an effect on my stand.

p.s. as an aside, deeba i find that 60% figure quite hard to believe.