definite signs that a guy doesnt trust the girl he is going to marry within a year?

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Hi folks,

My fiancee calls me insecure and non trusting. Though i dont agree and think that she over reacts. I dont want to write a story here and then ask that whether i am wrong or she is wrong. I just need you people to please write down some definite signs when a guy doesnt trust his girl. So that then i can analyze whether i am wrong or not.

All positive and helpful comments are appreciated in advance.

Cheers

Just need to add some more detail: This is long distance relationship. I am living in france and she is in pak. We communicate through chat/talking on phone and skype.

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Re: definite signs that a guy doesnt trust the girl he is going to marry within a yea

When he becomes too much 'nosy' in matters that he shouldn't be concerned about. e.g. some people keep checking the history of the sites she visits, her messages on cell phone...etc. When he becomes suspecious about her actions/words quite often, without having a solid evidence about the meaning he is extracting from them. When instead of trying to understand her he judges her based on his own thinking. When his Ego doesn't allow her to explain herself and to put himself in her position before jumping to any conclusion

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Re: definite signs that a guy doesnt trust the girl he is going to marry within a yea

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Just need to add some more detail: This is long distance relationship. I am living in france and she is in pak. We communicate through chat/talking on phone and skype.
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Bhai, I just read now this comment that you added to your post. Trust me, it is better to only discuss general positive common thinking/habits/interests/hobbies...etc for now. but NEVER EVER bring up any differences or arguement about disagreements/ sensitive matters on phone/chat. It would only create more misunderstandings, conflicts, dis-likeness and hurting of feelings. Because, those matters wouldn't be effectively shared/dealt with before a physical, mental and emotional bond is developed/strengthened between you and her, which is only possible after marriage. You may be very clear and straightforward to her about your priorities/interests/passion/...etc. but minor things that can be cleared/agreed upon later on, avoid getting stuck by them now. You are different human beings of different gender, from a different background. It takes time to adjust.

Send her a message now on cell phone, that you wish and pray to Allah (swt) that HE may bless you and her an immense love for each other, HE may keep both of you together, happy and caring for each other in this life and hereafter. He may never let the devil to create any misunderstanding between you and her.

Also send her beautiful romantic, cute, sincere,...etc. ecards, and copy paste good poems through Google about how much you trust her, she is the best you could have wished for, you feel lucky to have her in your life, she is a blessing for you, you are sorry for the unintentional misunderstandings which was your fault, you can't wait to marry her as soon as possible, you are in love with her....etc (of course this isn't lying, but we all feel like that about our fiances, we just need to express it more through our words, quite often).

Send one card today, and keep sending ecards to her from time to time with different titles/topics and poetry. If you are too busy in the coming month. Then spare some time now and scatter the dates on those cards (probably a gap of 3-5 days between them) and send them all today.

During discussions you need to be aware and conscious that your voice should be (sound) jolly, polite, friendly, caring. loving, happy..etc. At times being too serious or normal might sound that you are not happy with her or you don't like her...etc. that would put doubts in her mind. Keep telling her from time to time that you are happy to have her in your life....etc. as mentioned above. (This is not to show off or being fake, but because mostly women want to be told in words quite often how much we feel about them, so that they may feel secure and happy, and not bothered by doubts)