Hi prici. You are absolutely right, everyone can act for a currupt or for an honest reason. A person can be falsely infatuated to another due to the latter’s dihonest acts(to attract him/her).
For example(only suppose), if i am in love with you but you arnt so i’ll be adapting myself to you inorder to have your attention. I’ll make myself flexible to you. I’ll do the things which you like, i’ll hate the things which you hate, i’ll make my personality a mirror to yours. Why will i do this..??? Coz here i will send the signals which are quite similar to yours by hoping that sooner or later you’ll start receiving them. This is a dishonest act, but it have an honest reason.
Similarly if i am a fraud and i m doing these things for a bad reason then here both the things i.e act and reason are wrong. And these affairs are baseless and one day they get exposed. I guess you have heard this saying by Abraham Lincoln “You can fool all the people some of the time, some of the people all the time but you cant fool all the people all the time”.
So we must be very consious to the environment we live, the people we meet and if we have crush over someone our first job should be to find out the reasons.
sindsagar - you are talking in the terms of looks/art/beauty. is that all there is to falling in love? what you see on the outside? you say philosophy cant be used for love…well what is it then? what is the experience? its not happiness, but its not sadness either, is it? since you cant generalize..you philosophize. kya samjhay? what i understand from you..is that only people who ‘dare’ fall in love…so are you saying that everybody else is a coward?
wiper - i like your example of honest intentions and dishonest acts. personally, i think that when you’re going to be with somebody for the rest of your life..you should never change. why would you adapt to their lifestyle? why cant they love you as you are?
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sindsagar - what i understand from you..is that only people who ‘dare’ fall in love…so are you saying that everybody else is a coward?
***No. You said that; ***
***In my opinion they are either unlucky, or they are not willing to put any extra effort into attracting the one who they want to ‘Love’ :halo: ***
Its start with eyes meeting hearts pounding and desires building
Its continues to ring bells and whistles and wishes and dreams in matter
of minutes and seconds and your whole body is consumed with wanting
loving owing and having that person as your for the rest of your life. Your
own little discovery just for you made for you a Gift for you some where no
one knows. But it stand right in front of you.
when you have those feelings you got it.. its instant love .. love at first sight
unconditional ..without limits boundaries. Yes Its limitless eternal and it takes
you over completely. Very few experience it I have.. though more later..
For me, its no illusion. Its whats real & whats not. I dont like dreaming up fantasies as to how love should be & roll up my sleeves when it doesnt happen as it should've.
Mainly to me, love is being appreciated for who you are. :)
I'm just 21 and thats how i feel. Plus havent been in a relationship (nor do i want to) to see if i'm right or not. shrugs
the poetry is philosophical
and is along the lines that
if need be, the love would not eat
"choori", but will be fed by eating at the mass of your heart
maybe i am not translating it right
but the point i hope to make is
love is unconditional
sacrifice.
one will be immensely lucky,
to have a burden-sharing, equal partner, who will give space and get space within reason.
other wise, if love has to be a one lop-sided thing, it has to hurt, it will hurt.
Usually these infatuated signals are mild. When heart receives the same signals twice or thrice from the same person it becomes love..which is termed as "Belated/Realized Love".
It all depends what one's heart wants. Whenever the heart-needed signals are received it causes attraction or infatuation which are often appears sweet, strange and mysterious feelings. Prici, these signals can be defined as the indicators of the ideal fantasy of a person regarding love. A recent study have suggested the ppl who believe in love live more happily than the rest. It all depends upon the choice one makes.
In contrast, Brain works opposite. Brain do not recognizes these signals and rejects the total philosophy of infatuation and attraction. Brain only knows how to take care and do the best for "YOU".
social psych & human relationships research shows that we are more drawn to people who initially disliked us, but, later on, we could win them over.
tough spot to be in, but maybe, it has validity.
another aspect is of being similar in likes and esp. proximity.
when love is to be philosophically defined, the most simple thing to keep in mind, is the demands of love: trust, regard, benevolence, kindness, honesty and singularity of commitment - emotional, psychological, physical & spiritual.
a huge undertaking, amid all temptation and attraction-distracters.
but, the alternative for the weak of heart is, complete contentment, peace of mind & bliss. who would not go that extra mile to get to that destination?
kya samjhay? what i understand from you..is that only people who ‘dare’ fall in love…so are you saying that everybody else is a coward?
i like your example of honest intentions and dishonest acts. personally, i think that when you’re going to be with somebody for the rest of your life..you should never change. why would you adapt to their lifestyle? why cant they love you as you are?
i think you hit it just right!
Its start with eyes meeting hearts pounding and desires building