Re: Deciding on who gets invited to a wedding…
It happens. You can’t get out of it. I have first cousins who went out of their way to cause trouble the minute they found out I was getting married … my dad didn’t say or do anything about it because they were “family” … and trust me, these girls were mean. Years of buried jealousy and resentment came out and everybody saw it.
At the end of the day, if anybody tries to cause trouble, other people will see it (aside from yourself) and the trouble makers will lose whatever respect they had. I don’t think you can get out of inviting them unless you cut all ties to the family and are not on speaking terms.