Salaam all,
It’s been around 4 months now and we are trying to find a rishta for myself and my sister but everywhere we go it’s just a big disappointment 
We are both alhumdulilah good looking, graduated & working for top consultancy firms, but finding it so difficult to find someone who is decent and hasn’t been out with random guys or girls uff allah. What happened to the Pakistani people in UK? Where is our deen gone?
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Salaam all,
It's been around 4 months now and we are trying to find a rishta for myself and my sister but everywhere we go it’s just a big disappointment :( We are both alhumdulilah good looking, graduated & working for top consultancy firms, but finding it so difficult to find someone who is decent and hasn’t been out with random guys or girls uff allah. What happened to the Pakistani people in UK? Where is our deen gone?
I went through 2 years of the rishta process in the UK and came across some really good guys all very educated from nice families their mums were a bit mad but thats a different story.
Im a doctor not horribly ugly and from a good fam and the whole rishta process was just a massive flop and so stressful I hated it and nothing worked.
Then I went to Canada and met my husband to be there!
Yes there are good guys in the UK i think the whole rishta process is just a massive flop.
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Salaam all,
It's been around 4 months now and we are trying to find a rishta for myself and my sister but everywhere we go it’s just a big disappointment :( We are both alhumdulilah good looking, graduated & working for top consultancy firms, but finding it so difficult to find someone who is decent and hasn’t been out with random guys or girls uff allah. What happened to the Pakistani people in UK? Where is our deen gone?
Brace yourself, hate is coming.
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Yes there are good guys in the UK i think the whole rishta process is just a massive flop.
Agree..
There are plenty of great guys and girls in the UK but the rishta process itself can be awful..
Double standards and an emphasis on ridiculous things (eg keeping extended family happy, caste etc) rather than focusing on compatibility and the happiness of the people actually getting married..
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I think the best thing is to keep involvement with your local mosque. Guys who visit mosque regularly are generally going to be fairly decent.
Re: Decent Rishta's still exist in the UK?
I think the best thing is to keep involvement with your local mosque. Guys who visit mosque regularly are generally going to be fairly decent.
I totally disagree.
At the uni I went to some guys I know prayed 5 times a day yet drunk had loads of rampant sex and did whatever they pleased and expected to marry some virginal angel dropped straight from heaven.
Now I am not saying ALL guys who go to the mosque like this there will be a fair few who do go to the mosque who are decent but there will be lots of people who don't go to a mosque, pray 5 times a day and yet are wonderful human beings.
There are LOADS of ways to meet people and I learnt the hard way after 2 years of moaning and heart ache and the people on here who know me will know this I asked this same question are there any decent men??
Then what I did is a got a little more open minded, stopped trying so hard after taking the advice of people here and there he was right under my nose!
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I totally disagree.
At the uni I went to some guys I know prayed 5 times a day yet drunk had loads of rampant sex and did whatever they pleased and expected to marry some virginal angel dropped straight from heaven.
Now I am not saying ALL guys who go to the mosque like this there will be a fair few who do go to the mosque who are decent but there will be lots of people who don't go to a mosque, pray 5 times a day and yet are wonderful human beings.
There are LOADS of ways to meet people and I learnt the hard way after 2 years of moaning and heart ache and the people on here who know me will know this I asked this same question are there any decent men??
Then what I did is a got a little more open minded, stopped trying so hard after taking the advice of people here and there he was right under my nose!
what kind of advice? what did you change that allowed you to find someone that a) you liked and b) belonged to a good family etc..
help a sister out!!
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its been about 8 years for me(uk)...still no one .. if a decent guy comes along then the mothers are mad and have Double standards
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Online and meeting someone on your own is the way forward I think.
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Naturally, you're going to receive skewed responses here.
My advice is to keep an open mind as there are decent guys/girls the problem is finding them! It's like they're blooming hiding somewhere and all you see is the bad folk!. Good Luck!
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Just have faith in Allah (swt), pray as much as you can, and In Sha Allah when the time is right, you WILL find the perfect guy for you! Good luck!!
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hmmm 
wish you all the best…aameen
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When one lives in the West then there are two main ways Pakistanis get married. The first is that they have a love marriage where they are interested in someone and their parents are OK with it. The second one is when the marriage is done in the family. This is rare for people born and raised in the West but still happens from time to time. What I find even rarer is an arranged marriage outside of Pakistan.
The Rishta Aunties are horrible and the parents really make it difficult. They bring things like caste into the equation. They start comparing education without understanding the value of different degrees. A B.S. is always worse than M.A unless you are an engineer. Engineers and doctors are overvalued. Lawyers are bad. Girls have to be much younger and cannot be a couple of years older. You have to be light skinned. Can't be too tall or short. Have to be beautiful. The male has to have a great job. Everyone has high expectations.
I found it easier to simply go to Pakistan. There is limited time when one goes from the West and the parents have to find someone or they will waste time and money. If it is still hard then simply marry someone from a poor family who is educated and has qualities that you are looking for.
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Rishta Aunties in the UK are scams!
Recently we went to see one and she took £100 pounds just for registration, and its been around 4 weeks now since we have registered and she hasn't rang once to ask if we are still alive. Both my sister and myself kept each other away from Haraam (no bf & no gf business) but now I feel I should have found a girl myself lol.
Anyways, thank you all for replying I think until good people exist inshallah we will find someone as we are still young.
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You're a boy???
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You're a boy???
He is a boy and i think made the thread for him and his sister.
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have you tried your local masjid or any of the online marriage. The ones that are reliable and take a reasonable amount of money but don't rip you off. i think singlemuslim.com is free for girls.
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Singlemuslim allows you to have a “free account” or they say. If you send someone a message, it can be sent for free, but the recipient guy cannot read it. In turn, their policy, per an email reply to an inquiry I sent on this, states, that I as the GIRL, would have to pay (I think it was 200 dollars or so? can’t remember the amount) to allow the GUY to read my messages to him. Or he can pay.
So yeah, I have access to the website, as does the guy, and I can send messages, but he cannot read them, and either he has to pay to read them, or if I’m desperate enough I pay for the guy to read my message and hope he answers.
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Salaam all,
It's been around 4 months now and we are trying to find a rishta for myself and my sister but everywhere we go it’s just a big disappointment :( We are both alhumdulilah good looking, graduated & working for top consultancy firms, but finding it so difficult to find someone who is decent and hasn’t been out with random guys or girls uff allah. What happened to the Pakistani people in UK? Where is our deen gone?
UK ko maro goli.. how about Canada?.
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I don't really trust all this "single-muslim" business. Yes, local masjid sounds like a plan but the masjid close to me is full of Somalian's LOL. Oh well lets wait and see what allah has written for us.