Hello everyone,
This is my first post here so obvi im new. I just wanted some advice.
I am looking for dresses for my wedding. So far for baraat day my favorite has been http://www.pkbridal.com/wp-content/gallery/bridal-suits-by-hoor/bridal-wear-designer-suits-2014-16.jpg and for walima one like This makes me wish American wedding dresses were less white bread. | FollowPics I was wondering if anyone has any recommendations like these.
Also, I had another question. I am going to be going to Pakistan for the wedding and will probably spend about a month there at my in laws after the wedding. I was wondering if it is expected that I take gifts for them from here and what gifts should I give. To clarify, I mean separate from gifts my parents probably plan on giving due to the wedding.
And my last question is about the gifts as well. When I go from here, my bhabhi will be going too. She is also my nand. Am I supposed to treat her as my in laws as far as gifts etc goes? I have the same problem with my sister who is also my husband’s brothers wife. I am unsure whether to treat them as in laws or maika.
Thanks for your help.
You don't have to take any gifts for your inlaws after you get married. As for your bhabi and sister, instinct says they don't have to be treated special since they're part of your family, but idk how it goes in your family when it comes to relatives who are your in laws as well...
As for the walima dress, google Elan by Khadija Khadijah Shah, or search for them right here in the wedding forum. I think that dress is by her.
Also, I had another question. I am going to be going to Pakistan for the wedding and will probably spend about a month there at my in laws after the wedding. I was wondering if it is expected that I take gifts for them from here and what gifts should I give. To clarify, I mean separate from gifts my parents probably plan on giving due to the wedding.
And my last question is about the gifts as well. When I go from here, my bhabhi will be going too. She is also my nand. Am I supposed to treat her as my in laws as far as gifts etc goes? I have the same problem with my sister who is also my husband's brothers wife. I am unsure whether to treat them as in laws or maika.
Thanks for your help.
1) It depends how much time there is between your arrival in Pakistan and your wedding. If you will be arriving just in time for the wedding, I would imagine you don't need to gift separately from your parents. If you take anything with you, you could just add it to the wedding gifts and give it all at once. However, if you're spending a month or two there before the actual wedding, then you could consider gifting something small depending on what the family expects. It sounds like you have marriages within the family before so you could just go by what the norm is.
2) That is confusing. I would gift both just to be safe. Your nand, for sure. Sister, maybe/maybe not. You know your family better.
Ok thanks for the advice. I am thinking of taking all the gifts with me and then deciding from there what to give to whom. With my sister and my bhabi I guess I'll see whether they act like inlaws or family during the wedding proceedings. They'd probably appreciate me buying for them from there rather than here. because here they have everything theyd probably want.
Also I was wondering as to any advice you have as to what shopping I should do for myself before going there. I am so far thinking makeup, shoes and handbags from here in the US. I know I will need these sort of things for the post wedding dawats. I dont want to sound selfish or mean but ppl there tend to ask you to gift them your own stuff when you leave so IDK exactly how much money I should spend on these things. I dont want to end up having to gift super expensive stuff. I dont even know how to say no to ppl without sounding too rude.
