Debt and Marriage

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Re: Debt and Marriage

@whiteguy

i don’t think men care about this sorta stuff. But most women won’t go for it.

Really? I would think the other way around, that women wont care, keeping in mind the guy is the breadwinner, his loans, he’s earning, he’s paying them off… but a guy would care (if he is the sole breadwinner) since he would now have to take over paying off her loans?

@diamond321

I did ! and at the time of engagement / baat puki he was not under debt but just 4-5 months before shaadi he took heavy loans and I knew about it but that did not really affected me as it was something temporary could be handled …basically it was not a deal breaker for me. But what really happened was those loans were taken keeping in mind that I will pay them off so that directly and indirectly really really damaged the relationship .

He took loans so YOU could pay them off? How did that work out? Im assuming you were not happy with that since you did mention it was really damaging to the relationship? Now that would be a deal breaker for me! I mean I can understand having loans from before knowing each other. But..really?..taking loans with the intention of the other person paying them off is a little damaging and not to mention stressful for the relationship.