Debate on our pakistani weddings--i want ur pole

[Mamzie]

Re: Debate on our pakistani weddings–i want ur pole

@Mezhgan

I agree with bella. While getting into debt for a wedding is quite unwise, there is nothing wrong with spending a bit more if you have the means to do so. Something else that rather irritates me is the people who constantly harp that rather than “wasting” money on a wedding, people should give it to charity as if spending on a wedding and giving to charity were mutually exclusive. They are not mutually exclusive and it is quite possible to do both.

As far as “oh, but lavish weddings make other people feel bad,” quite frankly if someone’s self esteem is based on material things and dependent on the actions and/or possessions of others, it is fair to say that they have bigger issues than spending on a wedding. Self worth and self esteem come from within and it is not the responsibility of the outside world to provide someone with either of these.

This.