Do you ever think about your own death? If so, what are some of the things that bother you?
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Yeah ideally I would like a great death, one I would be remembered for. I dont like the idea of dying quitely but I dont want to blow myself to smithereens either... Ideal death would be to die at the moment of victory or to be shot by a long time friend and enemy in one last hurrah...
But realistically I will probably keel over some day and whenever it happens I want to be sure of one thing I die with dignity... and the ability to say one last prayer and utter the Kalima for the last time...
I also have a desire to be buried secretly somewhere... and if I could I would like to be buried with my trademarks in the grave with me.... I want to see the afterlife and to be attired as I was on Earth...to Which end on revival I will be ready to face whatever lies ahead of me.
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^^^ You didn't answer the question about what bothers you about being dead. I mean, death is inevitable, but what I'm talking about fear associated with death, specifically about ones own death.
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Well to be honest it's not the death that really bothers me... death is inevitable...
Rather it's the way in which you die and are buried that matters to me. As for fear I cant understand what to be afriad of... it has to happen to us all one way or another I only pray Allah gives me a choice in the matter.
One thing I wont be able to stand is having no control at the end... I am a control freak in that sense for me death has to be a controlled event not spontaneous or gradual. It has to be in accordance with my principles and beleif thats all.
I suppose having a fear how you die as opposed to the actual fear of death itself is more an Islamic concept since as Muslims your supposed to be aware of death at all times. Hence I am not exactly frightened of death rather the way in which I conduct myself.
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Do you ever think about your own death? If so, what are some of the things that bother you?
Mainly the religious aspect, that when death comes I may not be prepared for it.
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Do you ever think about your own death? If so, what are some of the things that bother you?
Yes I think of my own death alot. there are many things that bothers me. One of those is my deeds. I try to be good muslim but do commit many sins. I fear grave alot......its darkness.
Other is my daughter. If i die who will look after her. hubby has promised me that if it happens he will take care of her himself and not rely on anyone else.......
there are many relations whom i trusted and thought of leaving joint custody of my daughter but with times those are not as strong. i fear for my daughter....in case anything happens to my hubby than.......
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Other is my daughter. If i die who will look after her. hubby has promised me that if it happens he will take care of her himself and not rely on anyone else.......
are you concious of death generally or are you seriously ill ?
Do you ever think about your own death? If so, what are some of the things that bother you?
I think of death as it is envitable....as muslims we know as we come so shall we go,and we should all be able to assist at a death bed ghusl etc...
The things that bother me would be to die unprepared
may I die a respectable death
not in some horrid accident ,but peacefully in my bed whispering to Allah dua's and the kalima ameen...
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are you concious of death generally or are you seriously ill ?
Well i am a healthy person........just very conscious of death and i think i should be as i have responsibility of my daughter... and want to make sure that she is well looked after in case something happens to me.
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Do you ever think about your own death? If so, what are some of the things that bother you?
The thought of being forever gone, offends my ego.
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Do you ever think about your own death? If so, what are some of the things that bother you?
that i'm NOT doing NEARLY ENOUGH to receive Allah's Mercy and be able to enter paradise. :(
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The thought of being forever gone, offends my ego.
Reincarnation....?
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^ That would entail returning as someone or something different. It does not solve my ego problem.
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^ That would entail returning as someone or something different. It does not solve my ego problem.
Do you think that is an ego problem or do you think that you are scared of (as we all are) being forgotten?
Btw, personally death doesn't really bother me b/c I think we are all energy & energy recycles.
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Shami, I wasn't serious, but let's go with it. That fear of being forgotten, I would attribute it to ego. Where do you think it comes from?
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Do you ever think about your own death? If so, what are some of the things that bother you?
Yeah two things quite bother me sometimes to an extent that tears come out of my eyes.
1) what if my parents pass away before me how am i gonna survive without them?....for this reason i am always praying to god that i hope i dont have to see this day i hope i die before them.
2) qabar ka azaab....like being in the qabar...a small space where its hard to move and breath...so the idea of suffocation really scares me.... (ofcourse to avoid that i need to make my amal better day and day and asap)
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2) qabar ka azaab....like being in the qabar...a small space where its hard to move and breath...so the idea of suffocation really scares me.... (ofcourse to avoid that i need to make my amal better day and day and asap)
**par, kahte haiN k aulaad ka janaaza baap ke kandhoN pe dunyaa kaa sab se baRaa bojh hai...to apne vaalidai'n ke liye aisa kiuN?
are baba, murde kab saaNs lete haiN? lol...qabr ke Haalaat Allah hii jaane bas du'aa kare insaan hamesha k use Allah qabr ke 'azaab se maHfooz rakkhe aur uske liye Allah kii 'ibaadaat aur 'aamaal-e-swaaleHa kii zaroorat hai...lets do all we can to make our stay in the qabr a bearable / pleasant one...aameen :)**
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**par, kahte haiN k aulaad ka janaaza baap ke kandhoN pe dunyaa kaa sab se baRaa bojh hai...to apne vaalidai'n ke liye aisa kiuN?
are baba, murde kab saaNs lete haiN? lol...qabr ke Haalaat Allah hii jaane bas du'aa kare insaan hamesha k use Allah qabr ke 'azaab se maHfooz rakkhe aur uske liye Allah kii 'ibaadaat aur 'aamaal-e-swaaleHa kii zaroorat hai...lets do all we can to make our stay in the qabr a bearable / pleasant one...aameen :)**
haan yeh sach hai waqai aulad ka janaaza sirf ek maa baap ji jaan sakte hain....ofcourse meri yehi dua hai ke mere maa baap ko kisi kisam ki takleef uthani na pare chahe choti ya barri. its not that i wanna see them having the pain of my janaza....yeh tou bas ek mere dil main kahuff sa hai...dono taraf hi mushkil hai....do raaste hain ke woh aur main ek saath is dunya se rukhsat hoon ya main unke foran baad......lekin mujhe apni soch musbbat aur saheeh karne ki zaroorat hai aur aisi baaton ke baare main kam sochne ki zaroorat hai....kyon ke meri yeh zindagi allah ki amanat hai aur is ki maut mangna allah ko pasand nahi.
baishak murde saans nahi lete....but kitaabon etc main parha tha ke qabar main farishte atey hain hisaab....aur qabar ke azaab ke baare main jo kaha jaata hai woh yakeenan hota hai aur usay wohi loag mehsoon ker sakte hain jin ke paas mehsoos karne ke hiss ho...shayad qabar main ja ke murda zinda ho jata hai...i am not aure about this so wont say it as somethign for sure...just read somwhere...
Inshallah and ameen to the last part you said
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haan yeh sach hai waqai aulad ka janaaza sirf ek maa baap ji jaan sakte hain....ofcourse meri yehi dua hai ke mere maa baap ko kisi kisam ki takleef uthani na pare chahe choti ya barri. its not that i wanna see them having the pain of my janaza....yeh tou bas ek mere dil main kahuff sa hai...dono taraf hi mushkil hai....do raaste hain ke woh aur main ek saath is dunya se rukhsat hoon ya main unke foran baad......lekin mujhe apni soch musbbat aur saheeh karne ki zaroorat hai aur aisi baaton ke baare main kam sochne ki zaroorat hai....kyon ke meri yeh zindagi allah ki amanat hai aur is ki maut mangna allah ko pasand nahi.
baishak murde saans nahi lete....but kitaabon etc main parha tha ke qabar main farishte atey hain hisaab....aur qabar ke azaab ke baare main jo kaha jaata hai woh yakeenan hota hai aur usay wohi loag mehsoon ker sakte hain jin ke paas mehsoos karne ke hiss ho...shayad qabar main ja ke murda zinda ho jata hai...i am not aure about this so wont say it as somethign for sure...just read somwhere...
Inshallah and ameen to the last part you said
**haaN, bas yehii du'aa karnii chaahiye k jab bhii maut aaye to kalima naseeb ho aur jaan iimaan pe nikle. maut kab, kaise aur kahaN aayegii usko koii nahiiN jaantaa is liye uske baare meN ziyaada sochnaa laa_Haasil hai...albatta, maut ko yaad zaroor karnaa chaahiye jaisa k uskaa Haq hai aur isii liye aHaadees meN aayaa hai k insaan ko qabristaan jaanaa chaahiye [apne Khaandaanii yaa kisii aur ke] aur vahaN jaa kar madfoon logoN ke Haq meN du'aa-e-maGhfirat kare aur apnii maut ke baare meN soche aur 'aamaal e swaaliHa aur 'ibaadaat meN izaafa kare.
qabr kii zindagii mere Khayaal se ek sote huye insaan ke Khowaab sii hogii ... saare aHsaasaat aur jazbaat hoNge magar jism se uskaa koi ta'alluq na hogaa...Allah ne qabr kii kaifiiyat kaa zaa'iqa hameN apne Khowaab meN hii rakh diyaa. isii liye kahte haiN k qabr meN ek khiRkii hogii jisse ham jannat yaa dozaKh dekh kar Khush yaa maGhmoom hoNge. vo khiRkii ko yuN tasavvur kijiye jaise vo TV ka Screen ho...chaahe vo kitnii bhii chhoTii ho magar baRe se baRe pahaaR to kia saarii kaayenaat ko sameT saktaa hai yaa phir zaraa koii aaina apne saamne rakh kar us meN bikhre huye vasee' manaazir ko dekhiye...sab kaayenaat simaT ke us chhoTe se aaine meN aa jaataa hai.
Ghalib ne kaha thaa k:
laHd meN jaise k jannat ka koii manzar khulaa**
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**haaN, bas yehii du'aa karnii chaahiye k jab bhii maut aaye to kalima naseeb ho aur jaan iimaan pe nikle. maut kab, kaise aur kahaN aayegii usko koii nahiiN jaantaa is liye uske baare meN ziyaada sochnaa laa_Haasil hai...albatta, maut ko yaad zaroor karnaa chaahiye jaisa k uskaa Haq hai aur isii liye aHaadees meN aayaa hai k insaan ko qabristaan jaanaa chaahiye [apne Khaandaanii yaa kisii aur ke] aur vahaN jaa kar madfoon logoN ke Haq meN du'aa-e-maGhfirat kare aur apnii maut ke baare meN soche aur 'aamaal e swaaliHa aur 'ibaadaat meN izaafa kare.
qabr kii zindagii mere Khayaal se ek sote huye insaan ke Khowaab sii hogii ... saare aHsaasaat aur jazbaat hoNge magar jism se uskaa koi ta'alluq na hogaa...Allah ne qabr kii kaifiiyat kaa zaa'iqa hameN apne Khowaab meN hii rakh diyaa. isii liye kahte haiN k qabr meN ek khiRkii hogii jisse ham jannat yaa dozaKh dekh kar Khush yaa maGhmoom hoNge. vo khiRkii ko yuN tasavvur kijiye jaise vo TV ka Screen ho...chaahe vo kitnii bhii chhoTii ho magar baRe se baRe pahaaR to kia saarii kaayenaat ko sameT saktaa hai yaa phir zaraa koii aaina apne saamne rakh kar us meN bikhre huye vasee' manaazir ko dekhiye...sab kaayenaat simaT ke us chhoTe se aaine meN aa jaataa hai.
Ghalib ne kaha thaa k:
laHd meN jaise k jannat ka koii manzar khulaa**
totally agreed. bilkul sahi
sum ameen to that
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Do you ever think about your own death? If so, what are some of the things that bother you?
yes I do ! After going through severe sickness some one and a half year back when others believed that I along with my unborn child will not survive. For the first time I was thinking that shayad ajj ki raat qabar main ho . I was thinking about being dead and what will happen to my parents after that and what has brought me to this stage. But Alhamdolillah now after 1.5 year I and my baby are doing well All Thanks to Allah Almighty. But because of this experience I value life more and I think about death.
I think about death now quite often the thing that bothers me most is the well being of daughter and who will take care of her. Being a single parent I do not have the peace of mind that her father will take care of her. I pray to Allah to give me enough time to get her educated and settled phir woh jaisay aur jab chahay bula ley.