Does it make you a stronger person?
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I just can't bear the thought of losing any of my loved ones. Just thinking about it hurts.. so not sure if it could make me stronger...:(
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I don't think it makes you a stronger person or anything. It's not like you are all cool when your father dies because you've been through your mothers death (assuming you loved both equally, that is).
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I wouldn't say it makes you stronger, but yeah something does change. In the beginning, you don't think you'll ever get over it, but as time passes, it does help you heal. In that sense, you do become stronger in terms of accepting it, but the loss is always with you. I still miss my Dad, wish I had him around to talk to at times, or even hug, or just hear his voice. But I don't cry every time I think about him like I did when I first lost him, and try and concentrate on the good times I shared with him.
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I'd like to add that it gives you a certain perspective about loss and a kinship with others who have gone through it as well.
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I don't think it makes you a stronger person or anything. It's not like you are all cool when your father dies because you've been through your mothers death (assuming you loved both equally, that is).
I don't think by "being stronger" I meant getting rid of the fear of death or not feeling melancholy.
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I think it all depends on your relationship with them. My eldet sister died when she was 25 ..............my whole family has recovered from her death and that doesnt mean that we have forgotten her but now we dont cry like crazy when her name is mentioned but not my mom she still has those depression spells, one of my cousin who was her closest frnd could never visit her grave.
Time heals everything even if u think today that there is no tomorrow u always realize that thats not true.
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Sorry to hear about your father partyslims, and your sis Reidi.
I don't miss or think about my parents because whenever I do I start to cry and don't stop before an hour or two. So I have stopped thinking about them altogether, I think it's cruel and selfish to not to think about them but I don't wanna make myself upset.
I think we shouldnt forget whose who has passed away. I hate to be forgotton.
My tayee and dada jee passed away less than six months apart this year.
I still think of them. I still feel wen we go to pak they will be there.
Every one has special place, like my dada jee as head of the family, and its hard to think they r nt there.
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So how do you remember them in a positive way? Like when you don't make yourself too upset?
So sorry about ur parents hareem. Read Quran for ur parents and remember them in ur happy times. Also remember the gud time u spent with them.
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Sorry about your loss as well. 
You try and think about the good times you shared, laughing, hugging, talking about things and them being there for you. And it’s okay to get upset too. I’ll still shed a tear now and then, but I try and think about him and how much he did/cared about me and it makes me feel grateful that he was in my life for as long as he was.
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So how do you remember them in a positive way? Like when you don't make yourself too upset?
my mother passed away 4 years ago after her by-paas operation(if these r the correct spellings), first year was terrible and keep on thinking what if we did not do operation etc. now i dont cry bcz now i think in different perspective. i think she is gone from this world but i will see her when i die as well. plus i always saw her in my dreams very happy , and they say that dreams do reflect the stat of dead ones. so this gives me strength that Allah has forgiven her and her she is really happy .
i know she is there, she is just not in this world anymore and it will be long time before i see her Inshallah.