Death of a child

[Captain_FT]

@Jaanwar

Certainly one of the worst things that can happen to anyone.

Unfortunately, a very dear friend’s some 2 weeks old boy passed away. Needless to say he was devastated, and after talking to him so was I. Bad timing I would say, when I called him he was on his way to bury the child, his brother handed him the phone and he just cried, I couldn’t sleep for 2 damn nights.

The people I have spoken with, they say a newborn child taken away is relatively less hurtful than death of someone who you have spent more time with, because it takes time to develop that bond. Perhaps easier said than done?

I pray none of us has to go through that pain, but if you have experienced such a loss in your life or someone close to you has gone through it - how do you cope with it? Do you ever sort of get over (although this may not be the right word) this? Perhaps it is easier when you are blessed with more children? Do you ever sort of get back to your normal self again?

And how do you convey your condolences when you can’t even be there for them? I feel like a wuss for not being able to gather up enough courage to speak with him on the phone - it would have been a lot different if I could be by their side if you know what I mean.

PS - My apologies if it sounds like a collection of random thoughts, but it is all over my head right now.

Inna Lillah e Wa Inna Ilehe Rajeun

sad tu read that