death - finality of life on earth - loss to loved ones

besides knowing that return of the parted soul is indeed to Allah swt, the loss of someone’s imminent life does cause a lot of hurt to the loved ones.

atthese times, one may not find the right words to console a parent or a child, who just wont accept the loss.
how does it make one to think more deeply about the end to life on earth?

for once, can the religion be kept along side the human aspect of feeling sad and of feeling helpless.

any thoughts?