For however long you have been married and together, did it ever happen that one of you went strange.. I mean, irritated with the other without any reason. Only because maybe sometimes we just want escape. I dont know if anyone here will get my point and answer honestly.
I welcome the multi nicks and trolls already because maybe they will reply 
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multi nicks and trolls
crestfallen look
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Yes it has happened. I think it happens with burnout. Maybe you're too busy doing stuff that you don't like so your attitude in general gets crappy. It could also happen if you are in the wrong company that is distracting you from maintaining good relationships with the people who are most important in your life.
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My wife to be would be luckiest girl. I would send her for vacation with her friends for few weeks!.
I think all marriages go through this phase n u either end up divorced or ride the wave and come out stronger or end up on different shores and have to make the journey back to the midpoint. Some will meet in the middle some refuse to budge and expect the other to do all the hard graft and some will make the journey but may find other fishes enroute.
I don't know wat makes a couple ride it out together and still remain holding hands on the other side but I know this kind is very rare nowadays.
The smallest cracks become deep ravines sometimes u can plaster over some n some Walls just crumble and fall. But I just hope that in life school we listened in the bridge making classes :)
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Yes. I like my own company. Sometimes I just want to be left alone, even when he is leaving me alone it's not enough. I want to be ALONE.
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:k: ukgal. I know your post made sense yes.
ok so lets talk about it explicitly please, if any such thing happened to you or happens to people, how do they get over it? I mean this feeling of feeling irritated with no apparent reason. It must be very tactful and tricky to not let your SO feel you are really Not into it whatsoever. So… How?
One should take a break?
Visit friends in another city?
Watch a movie?
Go for a shopping alone?
Do what?
And, very importantly, what men hazraat do when and if such situation or feeling occurs?
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stoppit my guuuurrrrllll you got what I meant yaaaayyyy Im relieved :hinna:
So? how do you handle?
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Yes it has happened. I think it happens with burnout. Maybe you're too busy doing stuff that you don't like so your attitude in general gets crappy. It could also happen if you are in the wrong company that is distracting you from maintaining good relationships with the people who are most important in your life.
making sense elder sister but what if there is no apparent reason? Or there is one, always, you believe?
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There is always a reason for sudden behavior change. Always.
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Well if you need to take a break, go to another city etc then there is something seriously wrong in your marriage. And there is always a reason to be irritated, its just that sometimes you dont want to say it.
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For me, there is no reason that I can pin down anyway. The way I get through it is being given the time to be left alone. My husband knows how I am. He tries his best to keep out of my way and let me be. It definitely helps that I get to go away for work on my own.
Edit: I don't agree with the above two. My character has always had an aspect that I don't need anyone and that side sometimes overcomes and then you feel suffocated.
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I swear exactly this :k:
It hasnt happened between both of us as yet but I know the person I am. So the key is to have an understanding spouse who wouldnt mind if we have fits like this? 
I think my husband is nicer enough :hinna:
Im quite the opposite if i hav an issue wiv hubby i don't wanna b left alone I'm not a toddler that needs to b sent to the naughty step the think it thru. I wanna talk it out like adults.
I think this is where the root cause of long grudges and misunderstandings comes from. I'd rather get it out in the open talk about it resolve it and move on rather than have "space" and let the issue fester !
That's just me I appreciate that everyone has their own way of coping with such situations
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ukgal, it's not about having an issue with your spouse or a grudge or misunderstanding. In those situations, you are right, talking is important. This is something else.
mirage, basically yes. I'm sure you will be fine. My husband is my best friend as well. A marriage is about being able to deal with each other in all situations. Some people require a lot of attention from their spouse and need a lot of social interaction, whilst others the opposite. A silly example is yesterday, when we had a long drive back to London. I was quite happily sitting in silence for quite some time with my own thoughts when my husband asked me to talk about something. I know he likes to keep talking and in that case it would have been selfish of me not to because it was not one of those times when I needed to be left alone. It's just about give and take.
ukgal, it's not about having an issue with your spouse or a grudge or misunderstanding. In those situations, you are right, talking is important. This is something else.
mirage, basically yes. I'm sure you will be fine. My husband is my best friend as well. A marriage is about being able to deal with each other in all situations. Some people require a lot of attention from their spouse and need a lot of social interaction, whilst others the opposite. A silly example is yesterday, when we had a long drive back to London. I was quite happily sitting in silence for quite some time with my own thoughts when my husband asked me to talk about something. I know he likes to keep talking and in that case it would have been selfish of me not to because it was not one of those times when I needed to be left alone. It's just about give and take.
I don't think communication shud only b used when an "issue" arises - I didn't mean that.
Communication is important no matter what only then does one become aware of the others likes n dislikes etc.
Open of dialogue is the starting point of every relationship and continuous communication is the key to a successful and long-lasting one.
Also u need to b good friends too cos u don't wanna b sleeping wiv da enemy lol!
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Once you have reached that point and are totally comfortable with one another and developed an understanding that goes beyond words, I don't think you need constant blahblahblah.
One can only refer to it as constant blah blah if that's wat they hear!
I think ur confusing conversation with nagging lol!
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Yes, that must be it.
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Oh that is SO me. I'm scared that after my wedding I'll have such an issue with privacy. I can spend the whole day in my room and do whatever I want but I cannot spend days with people - I need time just for me and I like to be alone.