Before I begin, I’ll tell you guys a little about myself, I’m a male/20 and I live in U.S.
For some reason, my parents are extremely overprotective of me and my siblings and because of this I have like no social life. For instance, If I am late from work or college , like 10 mins., my mom starts ringing me. On the other hand, my dad has voiced to me that he rather not have me make any friends because they will only lead me on the wrong path............
How do I approach my parents about this without sounding disrespectful because quite frankly, I'm getting tired of it?
Also, Did anyone else have these sorta parents? (I would prefer guys to answer this one because as we know females don't usually have that much freedom anyways, Sorry for the generalization)
Fortunately my parents are not like that and I am a FEMALE. I would say that your parents simply have a different mind-set and what they are doing they may believe is for your benefit. However, you cannot spend all your life running away from people and being sheltered, you need to get out and network/socialise. Try talking to your parents and maybe assuring them that you will not do anything that will put them to shame if that is the worry that they may have for example. Just talk it out with them.
I think..every parents are bit protective about their kids. But to an extent to keep you away from friendship..this is un-healthy behaviour. This will cause you..to go rebellious in the future..though you may not realize it right now. So make friends..introduce them to your parents and go from there. I am sure they will be fine..
they may be looking out for you but honestly with that kind of mentality, they might aswell wrap you up in bubble wrap. If you live a sheltered life, the real world when you get out there is gonna hit you like a ton of bricks
I am dealing with exactly the same thing! My parents have always said the same things, and that I can just have fun once I am a -(doctor, engineer, etc).
Recently I have been building more of a social circle, and going out more with coworkers/friends. I explain to my parents that I'll be ok and I'm smart enough to make good decisions on friends and not do anything wrong, but my parents think that some how friends will turn me into a drug addict/alcoholic/player. Even though each time I go out I responsibly call/text to let them know I'm ok and am respectful of our values. But I see the trust building gradually, as my parents have met my friends and knows they're from good homes and are respective of my values. But still there is some uneasiness whenever I ask to go to a party or gathering, I think it's just the uncertainty parents from our culture have towards the west. As my cousins in Pakistan have no such restrictions.
I mean it is somewhat understandable as I have seen other aunties/uncles kids go down really bad paths, I guess our parents are just afraid that we will go against our values and morals. All you can do is show your parents that you do respect there values and want do anything that would harm yourself or others.
My friends have invited me camping next month, bracing myself for the begging and pleading about to commence!
I am dealing with exactly the same thing! My parents have always said the same things, and that I can just have fun once I am a -(doctor, engineer, etc).
Recently I have been building more of a social circle, and going out more with coworkers/friends. I explain to my parents that I'll be ok and I'm smart enough to make good decisions on friends and not do anything wrong, but my parents think that some how friends will turn me into a drug addict/alcoholic/player. Even though each time I go out I responsibly call/text to let them know I'm ok and am respectful of our values. But I see the trust building gradually, as my parents have met my friends and knows they're from good homes and are respective of my values. But still there is some uneasiness whenever I ask to go to a party or gathering, I think it's just the uncertainty parents from our culture have towards the west. As my cousins in Pakistan have no such restrictions.
I mean it is somewhat understandable as I have seen other aunties/uncles kids go down really bad paths, I guess our parents are just afraid that we will go against our values and morals. All you can do is show your parents that you do respect there values and want do anything that would harm yourself or others.
My friends have invited me camping next month, bracing myself for the begging and pleading about to commence!
Well, I guess this is reassuring to know that I'm not the only one lol. If you don't mind me asking, How old are you bro?
Its natural for parents to react this way - some just take it to a new level.
Show your parents that they can trust you little by little they'll ease up.
My parents were the same way - I dealt with it (female bachi) but my youngerbrother had the same issue you did.
Lucky for him he has an awesome baji who took up his case with ammi ji. Told her that he's a man and that she can't be so controlling for so many reasons. She eased up.
Now I'm a little bitter that I had all these restrictions and he's a free bird.
Story of my life.Over-protective parents will remain over-protective,no matter how much you age or whatever profession you go into.
I won't go into details,would be embarrassing for me to tell my stories, Haha...and i'm 25 plus btw.
Maybe getting married would be a way out..or maybe i'd land up with an even more over-protective man-to-be ! :D