How do you deal with your relatives, friends etc who’re jealous of you for minor reasons, for example, if you’re looking nice or wearing nice clothes, living in a better house than them or driving a nicer car…you know they hate it and that’s why they’re not nice to you and they demonstrate this by taunting and by being harsh to you?
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ignore?
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^Ignore them or ignore their behaviour?
Ignore both them and their behavior, pretty soon they'll get the hint and QUIT! I know someone like that, who can't compliment but can squirm in their seats wanting to spit-out something mean.
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Maintain a safe distance from them and their menacing ways. If you simply must be in the same place as them, tone down your interaction.
Otherwise, thoroughly enjoy planning ways of annoying them in small ways... (that's what I do, i love it!). Every b*tchy comment gets something it deserves when the originator least expects it. Haha!!!!
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Gina
hmmmm.....that's the best option but sometimes you can't just ignore people and their taunts. Is it okay to answer them back sometimes?
^ Yup! When they're being nasty and are full of 'hassad' by all means answer them back! If everyone compliments my outfit, the Aunty says "haan sirf color acha hai"
Last time she said it I answered her back* "haan aunty aapko meri koi cheez KAISAY achi lag sakti hai?"* She apologized later and never said anything after that ever.
Maintain a safe distance from them and their menacing ways. If you simply must be in the same place as them, tone down your interaction.
Otherwise, thoroughly enjoy planning ways of annoying them in small ways... (that's what I do, i love it!). Every b*tchy comment gets something it deserves when the originator least expects it. Haha!!!!
haha...
It's funny but I've already tried annoying them and it just gets worse and worse.
I'm sick of people in general, seriously. I just wanna see my husband and children and that's it...but then I think people might start thinking I'm paranoid or anti-social.
^ Yup! When they're being nasty and are full of 'hassad' by all means answer them back! If everyone compliments my outfit, the Aunty says "haan sirf color acha hai"
Last time she said it I answered her back* "haan aunty aapko meri koi cheez KAISAY achi lag sakti hai?"* She apologized later and never said anything after that ever.
lolz...
You see, she could've just kept her mouth shut par some people just can't hide it. Similar things are being said to me , for example, last year I wore bead necklaces and one auntie called me Mr T and she wasn't joking, I could see the contempt on her face.
And some aunties first thing they ask is the price of your outfit and when they find out you should just look at their faces. lol
Yup, I know what u're talking about.. I lost a lot of weight recently and everyone was complimenting me at a gathering we were at.. and she had to say something so she said "Haan, magar lag nahi raha na"
So another Aunty told her off.. "Sabiha, tumhari ankhon pe charbi hai shayad!"
Jealous people will never compliment u, they'll always find faults in u. Ignore them, nothing annoys them as much!
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**tahts their deed for which they'll be responsible in the day of judgement. just pray for them...i wud just ignore and return their ill talk with sweet talk...
i wud worry more if the reverse happens that is i become jealous of them because then that wud become my deed and and i wud be resposnsible and answerable to Allah and it won't be easy to convince Allah.
lekin ek soorat aur hotii hai us par bahooot kam log dhyaan dete haiN aur vo nihaayat aham hai ... this may increase or decrease the intensity of Hasad. aisa kuchh kare insaan k Hasad rasht men badal jaaye. Hasad buraa aur rashk achchhaa :) and that thing is...maiN jab gaaoN meN rahtaa thaa to hamaarii maali Haalat us waqt achchhi nahiiN thii zaahir hai to jab mere aur rishtedaar aate yaa maiN unke ghar jaataa to mujhe bahooot ziyaada buraa lagtaa jab unke bachche aur vo log Khud apnii ameerii kii baateN kartte aur saamaan laa laa kar dikhaate, khaane peene ke bhi even to mujhe bahooot takleef hotii aur andar hii andar pighaltaa rahtaa ayr sochtaa k yeh log aisa kiuN karte haiN? kiuN mere saamne aisi baateN yaa HarkateN karte haiN...kia mere jaane kaa wait nahiiN kar sakte.
ab mashaa Allah hamaare Haalaat bahoooot achchhe haiN, Allah kaa shukr hai...to mujhe ab is baat kaa aHsaas hai alHamdolillah k hamaare ghar agar koi kamzor aaye to uske saamne aisi koi baat na kaheN yaa na kareN jisse usko takleef ho aur Hasad kaa baa'is bane bal k maiN use attention detaa huN aur usse closeness kaa izhaar kartaa huN aur alHamdolillah its GOOD...they are all happy and i'm happpy :)
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lol Gina. Oh they love talking about the weight and they’re never happy with it.
There’s one family who came to see our first new born and I was living with my inlaws at that time, it was only two or three days after I’d given birth and I wasn’t able to do any make-up or wear nice clothes…:halo: well obviously.
So this auntie and her daughters got a chance to diss me and as soon as I came down and sat down with them she gave me a nasty look and said to my MIL “waisay aap ki doosri bahu(my jaithani) zyada pyari hai”. 
There are so many stories and I think we could go on and on with these stories but…these stories sound funny when you think about them afterwards. lol
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The Dark World of Women
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^^ Very scary place indeed.
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as if I care. Jalney wala taita mun kala.
OMG that’s so flippin rude. Some people have no tact at all. Like who actually looks good after giving birth? Freaks.
The Dark World of Women
^^ Very scary place indeed.
haha....men are no better but they have different topics to talk about. We have this Uncle with long beard who have no sharam in describing women's big hips and eyeliners in front of everyone. His major concerns are about women wearing tight clothes and women entering mosques while in periods, get a life baba ji.
^ Why didn't u say,* "Aunty aap makeup ke saath bhi bhayanak hain"*
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^lol.
No I just laughed it off by saying "nahi auntie main bhi pyari hoon".
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kill with kindness and then pretend they don't exist