ladies,...
the isssue is not that ppl eat with hands... our Holy Prophet (PBUH) ate with his hands... lady lama has got it right... and about the hygiene....would someone touch their feet and then eat or make food.....if you are toilet training your kid would you leave their toilet training thingie filled outside... no matter how paindu somone is would you burp openly and not put a hand to your mouth (burping is a natural process but how you burp is where you disgust others).... my parents had gone over to their place before marriage and I was aware of the differences between our cultures (home life whatever) so I had asked my hubby to come and meet my family showed him how we lived, how we did things... so that he would know and could choose whether he wanted to get married or not.... they had come enough times to our place to know that I don't eat spicy food...have never eaten it in my life so why the issue now...why the taunts now....
and regarding talking to my mil and fil ...that is not an option...heck from where things have turned my hubby is ready to leave me but not his bhabi....I think that sums it up what this marriage is all about....
Being embarassed of your family is a natural process that everyone goes through especially if there is an education/culture gap between parents and kids... but I believe in taking your parents along with you...if you have learnt the right ways (islamic or worldly) then you need to pull up your fmaily members so they do not feel inferior to you...
Thank you all for your input.... and for those who have said why did you get married .... sometimes you are pushed into doing something for someone else.... because our culture is all about what you can do for others....
Islam teaches us a lot of things...sadly us muslims hold on tight to what our culture teaches us rather than what islam says... and that is why we have relationships in which there is suffering ....