Lately I noticed that my 6 year old is afraid of going to the bathroom or any of the rooms by herself. She wants one of us to accompany her. I asked her why she’s scared in an otherwise well lit, non eventful home, and she said that she’s scared of monsters.
We talked to her about monsters being unreal etc. and are helping her go through this phase.
Why do you think she suddenly started behaving this way?
What are some other fears your kid may have developed and how have you had them overcome?
Re: Dealing with fears in children
Good thread Nik.
Kisi program ya ap ya hubby nain koi story sunai ho gi ussay jis say us kay undar khauf baith gia hai.
Us ka dur nikaalna ho ga jo intehai mushkil hai. Laikin koshish kartay rahain Allah pay bharosa kar kay.
Monsters wali film ya program na daikhnain dain ussay bilkul.
Monsters are unreal keep telling them. Use your elder daughter to tell her monsters are unreal.
Ussay aisi story sunain khud bana kar jis main sunain kay main choti thi to aik dafa aik program daikha ya khani parhi us monster say main bohat dar gai laikin meri mom nain bataya monster kuch naheen hota main nain believe naheen kia her jagah dhoondha aaj tuk mujhay koi monster nazar naheen aya.
Us say poochain kaisa monster hota hai. Wo zaroor detail batay gi jaisay monster say wo dar gai hai.
Parents bhi baaz dafa monster ka kah kar daratay hain aisa hargiz naheen karna chahyay. Meri aik cousin nain apni beti ko dara dara kar intehai darpok bana dia monster ka her jagah kay baray main bata bata kar. Main nain bohat mana kia par naheen sunti thi wo meri cousin. Ub uski buchchi intehai darpok ho gai hai. Zara sa darao bohat ziada dar jati hai.
Usko aisi kahanian sunain monsters naheen hotay. Yay jhootay fake banaay huway hotay hain.
Aur monster wali koi film program daikhnay pay sakht pabandi laga dain. Bilkul bhi naheen.
Aik program ya kahani aisi na ho jis main monster ka zikr ho warna uska khauf monster ka barhta jaay ga.
Usko bohat busy kar kay kamray main yani games main laga kar chupkay say wahan say khisak lain jub usko ahsaas ho ga kay wo akeli hai to bhagi aay gi. Us say phir poochain kioon aa gai wo zaroor kahay gi dar kar to kahiaay ga itni dair tuk to tum akeli thi to kuch nazar aya ya kuch tha ub kioon dari. Ussay smajhain her dafa monste kuch naheen hota.
Ussay zaroor poochain itni dair tuk to monster nain tumhain kuch naheen kia wo kabhi kuch naheen karay ga. waghaira waghair.
Kuch arsay isi tarha pehlay aap baithi rahain jub wo munhamik ho jaay game khailnay main computer, psp, nintendo waghaira main to aap khisaak lain is tarha kay ussay bilkul khabar na ho. Yaad rakhain uski peeth aap ki taraf ho aur ussay batain kay main to bohat pehlay aa gai thi.
Us ko yay bhi samjhain ziadatar monster achchay hotay hain jo kuch naheen kartay shuru main jub tuk wo mannay ko na tayyar ho kay monster unreal hain. Uskay dimagh main bitha dain monster achchay hotay hain ziadatar.
Hope Allah will help you in overcoming this Insha Allah.
The funny thing is I'm very darpok. Before I was so nidar then I become darpok. How I became darpok share it later.