Dealing with Divorce / Break up

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@Serafine Pekkala

Hi

Such a depressing first thread but had to do it..I am kind of lost. Fell in love with someone, married and things didn’t work out and we are considering separating, haven’t told family yet, friends don’t think I should do it, that its too early to consider that but I dont know. If the other person isn’t even willing to commit then whats the point? I have a feeling I will be alone in the decision. I don’t think anyone will support me. Once or if I do get divorced I have a feeling I will be pressured into marrying again. I feel kind of ashamed too for putting my and his family through this (even though the divorce is not my fault but i think letting him into my life was). And I think even if i do remarry I will have this burden or emotinal baggage.

How did you deal with yours? Who was involved in the decision? Were you afraid of the future?

Are there any online Pakistani divorce support groups?

I gues it is a very hard decision for both the people involved.
One thing I would like to ask you is have you in your heart of hearts tried everything humanly possible to save this marriage with the tools that you possess?
Have you turned every rock to try to find a wa resolve it.
If walking out that door donot affect you with a feeling that takes over you too strongly then I would think that you are ready…if not then there may be some work that may need to be done on your part.
I hope what happens , happens for the best.