Re: --Dealing With BULLIES?
I went through a period of being bullied when i was 11/12, i went about it by trying to deal with it myself and keep it from my parents, i would return home from school feeling awful, but the moment i would walk thru the front door i would put on a mask of happiness on my face so no-one would know what i was going thru.
That's how it went for a period of six months, i don't know why i was being picked on and even though i did share my feeling with one or two teachers with regards to what was going on, nothing did get done.
What really opened my eyes was, that one day a kid by the name of Andrew who was in a similar situation to me slit his throat ( he survived) from what i came to know of later was as a result of months/years of being bullied and abused. I had never felt so sick within and what had happened was on my mind all evening.
The next day i was hoping what had transpired the prev. day would have effected the guys who were bullying me that what they were doing was wrong, but it did not. The next few weeks followed as suit, at that point in my life i wanted to end it all and do what Andrew had done weeks earlier.
I couldn't bring myself to do it, one afternoon during football practice the same kids began again, at this point i had enuff and had to take a stand, i called the so called leader to fight me as i knew this was only way this would end, win or loss i was not going to be afraid anymore of him or his friends. Well we fought and come the end, i was never picked on again and have never been picked on since. During the next few years i began sparring and bulking up, not only to feel good about myself caz of that passage in my early life, but to also not feel inferior to those who were taller and bigger than i.
From that experience now that i look back on it, i would'nt want to see it on anyone and i so wish i had opened up to my parents and tell 'em what i was going thru, but i have no qualms, caz in a funny way it made me the person i am today; a sincere individual, yet a person who can stand tall and be assertive when need be ...and i kind of like this person.
I have never shared this with anyone before and i don't know why i have so today, all i can add to this is Ask99, try to nip in the bud and talk to the head teacher or whomever before it goes down the ugly route.