Me and my fiancee have been together for 2 years now and were getting married in February Inshallah. I finished my first degree last year and started studying for a second degree. It got a bit hectic and there were other things ie my driving license that I wanted to sort out so I took a career break and resigned from my job.
I’m the only child and I’ve always made a fuss over ‘not liking kids’ but for some reason they become very attached to me :S
Anyway its been a few weeks now that I’ve started to feel VERY broody. I get so teary eyed with excitement over the joy of having a baby and I REALLY want to have one.
I spoke to my mum about it so that she could put me off but she only got excited so that was a waste of time!
Hubs wants to wait 5 years to have kids and that was our original agreement because in the next 5 years we both wanted to really focus on our careers and savings so that we could offer our kids everything in life rather than just making it by. My mind still holds on firmly to that idea because I know its in our best interest but my heart thinks otherwise!
My question to you is ladies how old were you when you had your first kid and was it tough for you both financially?
Also do you reckon this broodyness is just down to being out of work and havig time on my hands?
I used to say I wanted to wait 5 years after marriage before we I started popping out kids. I love kids, but only other peoples, that way I can play with them, but they can go back to their mom when they need to have their diaper changed lol. now I think i'll probably have kids in 2-3 years. So I feel ya... after all, who's gonna change our diapers when we get old?? lol
lol i wanted to wait at least 3 years before trying to conceive. Then, once a friend of mine had a baby I began having the desire to have a baby. Hubby wanted babies right from the get go. We had a baby right after our 2nd anniversary. We are pretty well established in our careers, but would like to study further. We're pretty hard working so I know we'll make it work. Plus we have a lot of support from our families. I love having my baby around and I'm so glad we made the decision when we did.
29, almost 30. she came 6 days before our 5th anniversary.
we're pretty well settled mashAllah and I had gotten a good amount of work experience and was ready for a break.
Me and hubs only graduated last year (23). We recently bought a new built apartment but its more for singles and young couples to enjoy... I wouldn't want to start a family here.
We have also thought to wait till were 29/30 like you Sahar it seems like a very sensible option but I cannot brush off the feeling of wanting to be a mummy now!
no need to have a hard and fast rule. it took me 3 years to feel ready to devote my life to another human being. it was good timing for us. just talk to each other about it as your marriage progresses.
Hanging out with babies does it! Close friends of ours had theirs almost two years ago and we spent so much time with them, and him, that both of us realized that not only could we do this, realistically, but we also really wanted to. No luck so far but we're hopeful this might be the year for us! I'm 31 and we've been together for 7.5 years mA and married for 2.5.
Also, I used to think it was important to be at the "right time" career wise and life wise and all of that so we could give our kids everything, but there's really no "right time". There's only when you really want to and are able to. My mom was the one who brought perspective into things for me- she said every child brings its own fate and fortune into life as designated by God, so things will take care of themselves. Maybe its a simplistic point of view for some, but I do believe in it wholeheartedly. It gives me the confidence I need to go ahead and do my best to bring a child into this world. Plus all things considered we're mA settled and healthy and have our **** together, so we feel ready to take on the responsibility.
I agree with Sahar, discuss it as your marriage progresses and if you still can't shake the feeling, then I guess you're ready!