Its a blessing in disguise to have good neighbors but what if they arent good? what kind of relationship will you maintain with them specially if they are the one’s causing offence every now and then.
Would you get scared and try to look for alternative living arrangement ( move out )
Or would you stick around and face them? what would your strategy be?
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I'd make their life hell.. just like I used to do with my current neighbours :)
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Oh dear, that's not possible lol
Trying to improve on the relationship is also not a possibility because they have 11 kids of all ages and some of them have a police record even. They ccan become aggressive
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depends on what's "bad" about them.
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Oh dear, that's not possible lol
Trying to improve on the relationship is also not a possibility because they have 11 kids of all ages and some of them have a police record even. They ccan become aggressive
Where did that come from? Thought you was okay with your neighbours.
We can all be aggressive. That's minor.
It all comes down to the fact if you can handle the situation. If you can't, you'll have no option but to move.
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It wont go as bad as the movie "Neighbors" ..
Well I'd be most likely befriend everyone. You cant do much by fighting with yr neighbors. It'd just get nasty.
Waive at them when you see. Crack some jokes around when you meet. If they are into any game stuff join them.
Plus in the end you are their neighbor too. So they'd definitely give you respect but sometimes you've to earn it
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Well I have excellent neighbors now, previously we had a family living next door who made our life hell and also the lives of all the people in the street , but pure stroke of luck and Allah's help , police evicted them and they have moved else where.
But this neighbours thing is a very common issue in England. People end up at logger heads for so many reasons, a few weeks back a friend of mine ended up having arguments with her neighbors over the car parking space outside her gate ..
So yeah , in this particular case the kids next door are absolute menace and police isnt too helpful either. Moving is easier when one doesnt own the house but what if they own the house and cant afford to move into rental. How must they deal with the situation to safeguard their interests?
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It wont go as bad as the movie "Neighbors" ..
Well I'd be most likely befriend everyone. You cant do much by fighting with yr neighbors. It'd just get nasty.
Waive at them when you see. Crack some jokes around when you meet. If they are into any game stuff join them.
Plus in the end you are their neighbor too. So they'd definitely give you respect but sometimes you've to earn it
I like what you said there Sid, would you try to indulge still , if you knew they have police records for breaking in's and selling the stolen goods ? its then that you think twice about even saying hello to them , no?
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1'll keep a safe distance. if they interfere, i'll call police.
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I like what you said there Sid, would you try to indulge still , if you knew they have police records for breaking in's and selling the stolen goods ? its then that you think twice about even saying hello to them , no?
Yes I'd still do the same. Maintaining good relationship would most likely resolve many concerns.
But I wouldnt leave myself insecure either and would take all the safety precautions and make sure they know it too. :)
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Sound advice Sid , thanks for that. I think many people fear that such people, who are on the wrong side with the police and have suspicious people coming to their property and police every other day at their home, can become risky to be friends with .
I would also fear that if they knew too much about us , it wont benefit us in anyway , you know , keeping a low profile for them so you dont catch their attention !
I guess that's not a good strategy?
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I don't have a bad neighbor - just one kinda weird one.
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See now we are talking about how much they are risky on a scale of 1-10?! But remember if they are really bad they would trouble you even when you try to stay away. And you can be more updated only if you know them. Again, you are not hanging out with them, just maintaining a hello-hi relationship.
As said earlier, safety precautions will still be taken. I'd keep my security alarm on and if needed may have cameras. I've got one already currently even when my neighborhood is safe.
If it really gets ugly and worse, I guess then you wouldnt hv any choice to stay in your shell. But usually such people avoid their next doors and goto other streets where they are known less.
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I think many people fear that such people, who are on the wrong side with the police and have suspicious people coming to their property and police every other day at their home, can become risky to be friends with .
I would also fear that if they knew too much about us , it wont benefit us in anyway , you know , keeping a low profile for them so you dont catch their attention ! I guess that's not a good strategy?
No it's not. People like that, especially if they're your neighbors, notice you regardless of how low of a profile you try to keep. In fact, they may pay more attention if they think you have a negative opinion of them (even if its justified).
You don't need to become their best friend or share details of your personal life. Simply smile, wave, and say "hi how're you doing?" when you see them outside. If they seem friendly them make general comments about weather, looking forward to the weekend (if its near end of the week), being excited about an upcoming holiday, being tired after running after your kids all day whatever. General comments they can relate to and maybe contribute to….but nothing personal about your life/schedule.
If you knew for a fact that these people were serious criminals…like have records for murder, attempted murder, rape, involved in a gang etc….then I'd say be VERY cautious. But from your description so far, it seem like they're petty criminals. While you should take caution in your own home….you have nothing to lose by being friendly and showing a little respect when you come across them.
Annoy the heck out of thy neighbor.
Practice singinging desi classical music at legal but odd hours.
Order food stuff to be delivered to their house.
Always do BBQ in such a way that all smoke blows toward their house.
From time to time ask to borrow mundane things brooms waste basket a lemon a garlic a couple of ice cubes.
errect a life size nude statue on your side facing toward their side.
make bad smelling food like mooli gobhi dried fish near their boundy when the wind direction is toward their home.
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My parents have this young couple as their neighbours who have a very unkept yard which has attracted raccoons in the past. I don't think you can really do much, maybe give them a polite suggestion if they ask or if you happen to strike up a conversation with them. When my dad was talking to the guy one day, he just gave him the card of a guy who mows their lawn and some of the lawns of the other houses in their area. I think the guy ended up getting the message and tided up his place and there was no bad words exchanged or anything.
If I had a good relationship with our neighbours, like hi, hello, etc. I might mention the problem in a kind way, but if they are rude and it's minor things - more to do with their own personal matters then I would leave it.
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Same with us our neighbors park their car infront of entrance gate and it's really difficult to pass that plus they are so untidy we clean whole stairs but they mess up with dirt and all.
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With bad neighbors as in criminal people etc, I would just keep my distance. I would also research before buying/ renting the house and if there was even a remote chance of such a thing in that neighborhood, I will take it off the list.
I have had a neighbor who loved animals and used to feed skunks. I could care less until the skunks started living under purvshed. We called the exterminators and had skunks removed from our property. She came to our house and begged my husband to let skunks go and he just said my wife is scared if them 
anyway she stopped talking to us. It was very strange and weird because we had a pretty good relationship.. My son used to play with her cats, she would bake me cookies and all that.. Around the holiday season, I took a pie to her house.. I invited her over for tea but she politely refused. In summer, I waved at her whenever I saw her outside and this one time when our town was under thunderstorm warning, my husband and I went to ask her if she needed food or water ( her husband was paralyzed) she started warming up to us again.. She actually cried when we had to move out of state. We are still in touch and whenever we go back home, we go to her place for cookies abd gor my son to see the cats.. Their cat is in our family book 
(we often joke about skunks too and she introduces herself as skunk lady to my family and friends :D)
So yeah if there is just misunderstanding, little grudges, you need to keep offering the best no matter how they respond.. Neighbors have rights on you so be nice as much as possible.
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excellent advice , thank you all so much , it does make sense that keeping a door of communication open wont complicate things further.
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Sounds like you are living in a ghetto.