Daysee girlz should play the field and other rules for getting the right guy

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  1. Don’t initiate anything.
    Don’t call him, Don’s ask him out
  2. Don’t tell him how you feel first…no I like you, I love you nothing!!
  3. Don’t get emotionally involved to quickly or to much
  4. Don’t tell him what to do
  5. Don’t stay home waiting for his phone call….get out of the house!!
  6. Don’t make your relationship your existance, remain an individual first and always.
  7. Be nice, easy to get along…but not a push over. You are hard to get, not hard to get along with.

Remember the goal is not finding the “right” guy and catching him…it is waiting till the right guy proves he is worthy of you.

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I AGREE, IT IS DEFINITELY WORTH WAITING INSTEAD OF ACTING ON LUST

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Rules dont work on the right guy..... if it rules then its probably the wrong person u are trying to get ....

relationships require efforts on both sides .....

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Rules aren't supposed to work on the guy...they are to work on yourself. It's a case of self-descipline and if imposed well the guy will not even know what's going on.

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"Strictly" my "personal" opinion.

First of all a decree has to come from "upstairs"!!

Secondly, if it ain't gonna happen, it ain't gonna happen, that's that - Rules or no Rules.

Also, even if rules worked, it would mean deviating from one's "natural" behaviour and how long can one continue this "regulated" style of reacting?!

As they say, habits/nature never change and so what happens when you fall back into "rule-less" interactions??

Buffy, I totally agree with the approach suggested by you and I don't mean it in a sarcastic way.

But for me, I would want a guy who makes himself worthy of me by "appreciating" my "real" self.

Not the me operating under confines of an artificially mandated attitude.

Jack Handy,

Long time no see.

Elaborate if you will please, your definition of a "right" guy.

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Buffy ..!!
Why not..let the guy prove his worth!!

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Muzna
You got it…it’s not for the guys..it’s for the girls.

PhulanWakilan
I’m not advocating changing personality… any radical change in personality traits would be leading a guy on.

My rules are for daysee girls who think that their goal in life is to catch a guy.. IT isn’t. To many girls get into being nice and treating a guy they are interested like they would a girl friend…it isn’t the same. Guys respond differently than girls.

In addition girls do not have a problem getting emotionally attached…guys do. So women need to be aware the fact they must protect their own selves first.

Jack handy
How many relationships have you been in…to know that? I’ll bet the more aloof the girl is the more you would go for her. All guys do it.

[This message has been edited by buffy (edited May 02, 1999).]

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Buffy,

Hmmmm!!! You have a point there!!

Frankly, I MISS not having a brother and so I do tend to "spoil" the male species!! Laugh!
Your today's post touched a inner chord.
My arranged marriage started and ended in my early teens and friends/relatives always tell me that I didn't know "how" to handle him and gave him TOOOO much of importance!!

I am going to re-read your post for next time!!

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PhulanWakilan

I've got enough advice from my American and daysee friends. My friends who are married and divorced...say the exact same thing... all guys are the same. Women give to much, become enmeshed too much and become a guys shadow. Always maintain your individuality, have a life outside, friends who are separate.....then take care of him and the family.
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Buffy,

It is a pleasure to interact with Gupshup friends who can understand my perspective and provide "constructive" advice rather than reach for my throat!! Laugh!

You are VERY correct in your post above and I hope that the LADIES here will give it as SERIOUS a read as I did!!

The problem is that even though I am not ancient agewise, my thinking about certain things is so freaking Old-fashioned that it is really doing me in!

But as long as you keep posting such threads as this one and TROPHY - (PEOPLE you have to READ that one in General)!! I should have some of the styrofoam that fills my skull replaced with grey matter!!! Thanx

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PhulanWakilan

Thank you

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Re: Daysee girlz should play the field and other rules for getting the right guy

Revival

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Re: Daysee girlz should play the field and other rules for getting the right guy

VERY TRUE 100% :hug: :slight_smile:

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Re: Daysee girlz should play the field and other rules for getting the right guy

Seriously retarded levels of expectations.
If you keep this charade up, you will soon find yourself to be 29 years of age, begging to get married to the next bum that comes along.

All the points you mentioned will only make more and more desi men ignore your @$$ and take the arranged marriage route to home in pakistan.

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Re: Daysee girlz should play the field and other rules for getting the right guy

dope,

If your sister was the one reading buffy's advice, would you tell her to bin it or follow it?

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Re: Daysee girlz should play the field and other rules for getting the right guy

I’d say “Bin it. Wait for mummy and daddy to find a guy likely to be worthy of you” :hehe:

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Re: Daysee girlz should play the field and other rules for getting the right guy

Still means the same thing........

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Re: Daysee girlz should play the field and other rules for getting the right guy

" Don’s ask him out" lolllll cant stop laffinnnn .i can imagine those desi desperate grlzz who do that!! .....no offence their are always diff reasons...i think..

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Re: Daysee girlz should play the field and other rules for getting the right guy

lol