So I was in the discussion with someone this evening that early days of the marriage are supposed to be the most beautiful days in most of the couples life while she said, NO, the early days are always worst.. its always after a year or two, that a couple spends more beautiful days than the early ones!!
When I started opposing, she said, ok you can go and research over it..
her point made me open a thread here and ask you people.. which are the most beautiful days in a couple’s life after their marriage.. the early ones?? or the later ones?? 
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I think queen that it depends on the situation they are going into. If just the two of them are involved in a nuclear family unit, then they may as well be the best days early on. Love however grows stronger and stronger with time, so I agree with you that passing days are better and better simply because a mature sort of love takes over.
As for going into a joint family system, too many cooks spoil the broth. That may be the case (though not always)
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I bet people here would be more interested in learning about the nights after marriage 
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^ LOL.. why don’t you start the thread 
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Yes they are the days you have most time in your life But every passing day makes love stronger and stronger.
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Suhaney din!
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traditionally in rural settings back home, it's ONLY a few days of VIP treatment after which there is a little ceremony called 'chammach chulaaii' [touching of the spoon] and that means a welcome to the life in Kitchen. bride, in her sasuraal, gets into the kitchen on the fourth day of the wedding and prepares her FIRST dish which is usually a dessert like feereenii and after that ceremony she is no more considered a 'sacred cow' when it come to doing the chores. on the fifth day, FILS, MILS, BILS start ordering her to do this and to do that. :D
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So I was in the discussion with someone this evening that early days of the marriage are supposed to be the most beautiful days in most of the couples life while she said, NO, the early days are always worst.. its always after a year or two, that a couple spends more beautiful days than the early ones!! When I started opposing, she said, ok you can go and research over it.. her point made me open a thread here and ask you people.. which are the most beautiful days in a couple's life after their marriage.. the early ones?? or the later ones?? :@:
Exactly. I wont call them worst but there are a lot of compromises and understanding involved initially. It takes almost an year to know the other person, his/her likes and dislikes, priorities etc. Then you become easygoing with one another. Though there is a charm in the initial jhijjhak, chessiness waghaira but i dont know, i think now i am more happy and enjoying because i can say whatever i like to him and be completely myself. Initially we both were trying to adjust and know each other and with time we realized that what is that will make my other half angry or happy and then you kind of adapt. But ofcourse everyone is different. :)
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"Newlywed" phase is overrated. I mean, each phase has its own charms and ups and downs, just gotta enjoy each phase for what it brings... there's a charm in the newlywed days but then when people say the first year is the toughest isn't out of nowhere...
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the days before the wedding....and the wedding days (cause of the halla gulla)
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Although, I would say it depends on each situation; however from my personal experience. I feel that a year after our marriage we are at a point where we both understood each other better and know what we can or can not expect from another. Although I married my best friend who I knew years before marrying him; It still took us a year to know each other and figure out the expectations. So, yes initial living together days where awesome but I love how our relationship is now than what it was when we got married.
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This is why people should date before marriage.
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i think the initial days after mariage are very hard and compromising, as you are in a new environment with a new person. But as the time goes by the love grows stronger and much more peceful and beautiful days starts following. But that depends on the situation too.
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the days before the wedding....and the wedding days (cause of the halla gulla)
I feel really sorry for your husband/wife then.
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Blessed has just started off her marital journey so this was all she was able to share 
The days right after marriage, by far YES. Everything has its own beauty and flavour of the charm the newly weds are under 
Well I wonder if it wasn’t like this with those who experienced otherwise. It varies. For me those are still unforgettable days. Haven’t as yet started to live with my husband permanently so the post marriage phase is yet to come.
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I feel really sorry for your husband/wife then.
me too.
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Lol, I knew the rism, but never knew this NEW NAME.. 
we call it.. kheer banwaai
but doesn’t it depend on the kind of marriage, I mean, arrange marriage and love marriage, like you need to know or understand the person only when you don’t know him, and if thats the love marriage.. then?? I mean to ask, do the “good or bad days” right after the marriage depend on the kind of marriage?? 
LOL 
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This is why people should date before marriage.
You cannot possibly understand and know the other person completely unless you start living together. Dating is not at all the same. I married my first cousin, we remained engaged for about 5 yrs but still i feel i came to know the true him after getting married.
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Even with love marriages, you cant possibly know all the aspects of your SO’s personality. Before marriage when you are dating, you meet for few hours, talk for sometime and you are usually at your best behavior. But when you start living with that person day and night, you got to know the true him/her. So there is always some degree of adjustment involved.