The way they do it here is… U come and stay for a few hours with ure child… Sit in a corner and let the kid get comfy with its surroundings and the new ppl… This goes on for a week (or less if the kid is say.. 8 months).
This part went great with he son… He was way too entertained to care where i was (or so it seemed)
Then they start the weaning process… Where the parent says good bye after staying for just 10 mins at drop off… And the parent is asked to come back after an hour (or not if the kid is younger, and is faring well, which they do better than older kids).
If all goes well with the hour long break, u can leave e kid full day and just keep the phone close by incase there is a beginners meltdown…
This is where all hell has broken loose… He cries non stop for the full hour… Now they have cut his seperation time from me to just 30 mins… And its the same…
Ive tried talking to him, used all sorts of examples like mommy has to buy milk and will come back, other kids dont have their mommies there… Urw a big boy etc etc… Nothing is working
Heis more chipkoo than an average kid and has always been a mommy’s boy… Its really surprising cuz huband is more gentle with him than i am
Our last resort is, to have husband drop him off and me pick him up… Hoping it works but i dont know…
Its been 2 weeks now… I know it takes time but was wondering if any guppy parent has been through this and what they did to tackle this problem of sep anxiety.
Language could be a barrier as he doesnt speak danish… Though i doubt he cares what u are saying to him when all he wants is his mommy.
ah poor baby makes me remind of my daughter when she started preschool .......ur heart melts doesnt it ? i used to sit outside and cry ....well my daughter didnt know how to speak in english except for a few words coz we wanted her to speak urdu fluently before she started with english n about sep anxiety she used to cling to me all the time i weaned her at almost a couple months before her 2nd bday but she never let go of me ......at first it was just like u described one day i stayed with her n later on i was to drop her n go but she used to run after me n cry so the teacher told me to say good bye at the door n just leave .....she went in the afternoon n all kids had settled by that time so the teaher used to put her on her lap and continued with cirle time etc until she stopped crrying .......i started picking her up after one hr for a week n gradually increased time but i must insisit the role of teacher here she was v supportive n cared for her so well that within 2 weeks my daughter started loving school .....her teaher worked with me to teah dd english n she learned it in no time ......also when i used to pick her up i would give her extra kisses n hugs
try talking to him my daughter said to me mama ap school say nahi laynay aao gi so ask him what he thinks kids have a big imagination .......try to resolve his fear but it takes time and patience, its only been 2 weeks give it 2 more weeks n if problem still continues then dont send him to school for a couple days ,play wih him n say aj school may saab bachay bohat mazzay ki gae play kar rahay hain etc ask him what he thinks n then again take him to school
i wish u good luck it must be a v hard time for u too moms also have sep anxiety ....i know i had ,i used to feel so guilty leaving her alon e n crying i told my husband that im not sending her anymore but he didnt let me do it n asked me to give it a few more days n im glad i did
My son has been going to daycare forever but due to cirtain circumstances he stayed at home for few months and started back when he was 18 months. It was not so easy for both of us
I agree that teacher plays a very important role. He had a very good teacher in his room. The worst days for me and him were when his teacher had her day off. My son would not want to stay with anyone else.
It took him months to settle down and eventually he has started going to his class and then happily run to his teacher and not even look back at me or if he does he would say bye (telling me its time for me to go)
Even now we have some days when he does not want me to leave. I usually have all of his doctor appointments in the evening so i donot have to pick him up in the middle of the day and drop him off again because I think when I picked him up in the afternoon he thought it was time to go so he did not want to be dropped off again.
Not sure but I think if you come back in an hour, he would keep on thinking that you will be back in an hour if he keeps on crying. atleast thats how my son is.
I agree with the approach that they have at our daycare i.e. to just drop off and leave. The longer you stay or if you keep a differnet pickup schedule, it is more difficult.
I did used to stay outside his class and listen for him to calm down or would call back to check on him in an hour initially.
according to my kid's daycare walay - all kids cry the initial week, almost no kid cries for over two weeks. they may cry for a while as you leave, and cry when they see you at pickup time. but kids adapt fast.
That reminds me of my children going to daycare centre, my son was about 1 and my daughter 3, it was 2000. They cried for a long time after I left, hardly had anything to eat or drink, wouldn't let other people come near them, stayed close together. It really took a while before they had gotten used to it! I used to go to lab school, it was difficult to stay focused, kept thinking about my poor children who were still crying when I left daycare centre. :( But after a while, once they get used to it, things get much better and then it's fun and they enjoy being there and know the routine.
well iv just started my daughter in day care in the last 2 months. found one place first and thay had the policy drop and leave. my daughter cried so much she vomited. this happened all the time and i thought something just isnt rigth. one day i went to pick her up 3 hours later and she was still crying and no one was comforting her. i took her out of that day care.
now shes in another one and she has settled in completley. my hubby stayed with her for the first week, second week was in and out and now its been 6 weeks and she waves goodbye. its all about the nursery and the teachers
Ill be going through this pretty soon so I am glad I am getting some ideas before I start sending my daughter to a day care. This makes me really sad though :(
