Re: Day After Valentine-Other side of coin
Yes. High expectations sets up for potential failure if problems were already brewing.
Isn’t that what I said?
The expectations brings a test for other person and if for any reason other person fails, that ‘triggers’ the final break up.
Here are a little more explanations.
1- There is selective bias. Those who tend to celebrate this seriously are already kinda emotionally driven people. They take these events as if this is how love should be expressed.
2- A lot of people who do not take these events seriously have a mature look on the life and relationship.
3- Almost every relationship has ups and downs and it takes mature people to reconcile on regular basis.
4- Then there are emotional people who think chocolate, flower, diamond or whatever small or big gift ..has to be exchanged to show love.
5- When these ‘material’ expectations are not met, they feel rejected.
Hence they go for the irrational decision.
Fortunately these kind of people are not in majority.