I think both husband and wife should discuss this before marriage, especially if they are the only child or if there are only daughters. Maybe even put it in your marriage contract.
Actually here in London, house prices and rent are so high the kids will have no choice but to get along with their parents.
I agree with khawateen, leave the women to argue amongst themselves.
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**i dont think this thread is refering to ghar damads. there is nothing wrong in having the girls' retired parents living with the couple if there are no sons to take care of them. i have seen this happening when the father of the girl passes away and there are no sons to support the mother, the mother stays with the daughter, son-in-law, and grand kids. nothing wrong with it... its only human nature to wanna take care of parents, considering all the hardships they must have faced to raise their children. : )
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hmm.
Well i come from a family that has three daughters, then one son who happens to be the youngest child, and only son, of our family. There's a 13 year age difference between him and my eldest sister.
Anyways. By the time my youngest brother is old enough to even consider marriage, it will be very far into the future... and my parents obviously are getting older. So the responsibility doesn't fall on his shoulders. It's upon my shoulders and my sisters'. Male or female, you take care of your parents somehow or the other. If society doesn't approve of the daughters taking care of their parents subsequent to marriage, oh well. Society is society (this goes for ALL cultures) - not always agreeable to undertaking actions that are morally correct.
i dunno how it fits, but i just remembered that saying - what's right is not always popular and what's popular is not always right. i dunno how it fits in with this thread but oh well.