Ira I know what you mean. The kali/gori thing really gets on my nerves. People in pakistan keep telling my daughter how “gori” she was and she asked mom “what’s gori?”
I for one am really glad that we have a African American first lady and I will glorify her in my house till the cows come home to make my point clear to everyone.
I also think we have to set good examples as parents and that also includes our spouses.