Re: Daughter wedding approaching.. MY OWN in-laws drama 
Just having read half way through your post, actually even before that, i have formed the view that you are at the wrong and that has caused your in laws and extended family to react the way they are. They ARE your in laws, your husband’s PARENTS and your kids GRANDPARENTS…they do deserve more than just being a pleasant spectator meeting the potential family your daughter is going to wed into. Give respect, you will get respect later on from your kids as well otherwise they will follow suit.