Dating

[Khumar]

Re: Dating

@Ozair

I am one of your guys from the latter. Well, I would’nt go so far as to say that interacting with the opposite sex is haraam, that is the extreme. But I am not comfortable with getting close to women especially if I find them attractive. Hence, I try to remain very, very formal with them. The part of the reason being for this is just the way I was brought up, studied in boys only school till 12th grade, literaly have no female friends or cousins, I don’t even have a sister. I was first exposed to co-education when I entered college. I’m in my final year college now, and I still have not made any kind of informal talk with a women, yet alone dated them. But I am not a prude, I am just shy and anxious, a lot. Whenever I have to work in group projects or assignments with ladies and talk about studies related things, I participate but thats pretty much it.

Sometimes I think that I have missed out on a lot. I always had the idea that I will graduate,get a job with decent money, get married to the best girl with my elders arrangement, all will be hunky dory from there on and I won’t face any issues in life regarding relationships. But I am starting to realize that I am just being naive and narrow minded. I did liked some women during my time in college, I even flirted a little bit but I never went to atleast have some conversation with them and get to know them. They too are human beings and flaws just like me. Now I feel bad about it, its not like I was going to fornicate with them.

The girls won’t bite.

And the best way to get over your attraction is to talk to them. The biggest turn off ever in the world is hearing a person speak and realize they’re just stupid.