Since I work so incredibly hard I have to work hard to stay happy and positive and being a ray of sunlight so I learned to change my internal conversation. Thru internal conversation I turn drudgery and dreaded chores into exciting things. I used to hate going to costco but they have these lovely food sampling booths and I decided to turn into a dating urself event now I enjoy stopping at all the sampling boothd
I used to go to restaurants but am on a fitness binge so I have mentally turned gym into a mental vacation spot surrounded by happy angel, the jetted hot tubs, saunas, music so awesome
Interesting concept! I date myself too! but not in a way to treat myself, but to challenge myself. I used to run 5 miles everyday after 12 hour shifts, and it was my main ‘me’ time, I no longer do it though i have more time on my hands, but i miss those times. Funnily as I became less busy with time, i became lazier.
It’s not really “dating” yourself. It’s just loving yourself, almost in the same way we love others or significant others in our lives. We spoil loved ones with our time, gifts and attention. Yet, many of us can’t say that we do the same for ourselves. Many people hold off on life waiting for an SO. Never do that! Life won’t magically change after marriage/relationship.
We are typically fed the idea of selflessness and loving/caring for others and refraining from selfish actions. What they don’t teach you is that if you don’t love yourself, nobody will. It is NOT selfish to love yourself! There were times I bent over backwards to make my loved ones happy at the expense of my own psychological and physical health. With years, I’ve learned to be easy on myself, enjoy ME time, steer all my free-energies towards myself for a change and nurture/treat myself like my own elder sister would, if I had one.
Isn’t it tiring? I think it’s very difficult to change the internal conversation as that’s the only place you let go. When you are mindful of that too, it’s like you’re working 24/7.
