Dating tips for women
FINDING OUT IF HE REALLY LIKES YOU
If you think a guy likes you trust your instinct. But if you want to just double check and assure yourself try this. Give him a great smile the next time you run into him, especially in a crowd. If he smiles back, or his face suddenly lights up, he does. If he starts sweating and looks all flustered, he likes you; yes he does and evens more! But if his smile is the polite kind well maybe he isn’t so crazy about you, at least yet.
**SIGNS THAT SHOW HE’S INTERESTED **
Unlike women, men are not exactly experts at conveying their feelings, especially when those feelings are from the heart. If a guy is interested in you, he won’t approach you directly. Rather, if the two of you are part of a group, he’ll talk loudly, and try to draw your attention. But he won’t say anything specific — or romantic — to you then.
Of course, if he’s alone with you, he’ll swing to the other extreme. All the brash and loud talk will disappear. Instead, he’ll begin to mumble, stutter, and won’t know what quite to say.
There are exceptions to every rule, however. Look out for the Casanova. He’ll go into a long speech, praise your beauty, your intelligence, your voice — everything he can think of. Then, thinking that he’s hooked you, he’ll pop the question: “What are you doing on Saturday night,” or “What your phone number is?”
YOU KNOW YOU’VE CHARMED HIM WHEN
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He calls you out of the blue at work, home, wherever, just to say hi.
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He talks about you with friends/family.
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He maintains eye contact and focuses on you, ignores others around.
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He is almost always punctual, even early than the appointed time (he’s dying to be with you!!).
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He is not mad that you kept him waiting.
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He is nice to your friends.
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He listens attentively, even when you’re talking about the weather.
WHY HAS HE NOT CALLED?
He has your number, and he said that he would phone you. But he hasn’t yet. Well, there could be two reasons for that. One, he isn’t interested in you. Many men fail to communicate their lack of interest to the woman, and instead resort to a timid “I’ll call you next week.” And of course they never do.
But there are also those guys who are too shy to lift the phone and dial up your number. Sometimes, he may even call but won’t have the courage to speak.
So instead of wondering what’s going through his mind, your best bet is to take the initiative and call him up yourself. If he sounds uninterested, you will know then that it’s time to give up on him. But if he’s the shy type, it will be up to you to suggest an evening out. He too perhaps wants the same, but is just too afraid to ask you out.
ALL GUYS LIKE ME, BUT NOT HIM!
You are pretty and popular, you have style and attitude, but there’s this one guy who somehow doesn’t feel that way. How can that be! And because he’s the one guy who doesn’t give you the attention you want (all the other guys do), you want him even more desperately. Well, in such a situation, the more you try, the harder you are going to fall flat on your face. Don’t let your self-esteem be affected just because one guy doesn’t think you’re great. Often, there could be no explanation for his lack of interest — it could be just that the “chemistry” is missing. And that’s something you can’t blame yourself for. Forget about him. Think of all the guys who do find you amazing. And there will be more tomorrow too!
THE GIFT OF MARRIAGE!
This Valentine’s Day, if you get a gift of clothes from a guy, get ready to make one of the most important decisions of your life. He might be asking you to marry him. That’s exactly how it’s done in some countries. If a guy sends a gift of clothing to a woman, and if she keeps the gift, she has in fact agreed to marry the man. Does your guy know this? If tying the knot is what you are looking for, maybe you should tell him about this legend.
He’s SPENDING LESS TIME WITH ME
Remember those days when he just couldn’t get enough of you, and kept trying to meet you everyday, sometimes even twice a day?
Yes, all that attention was fun. But six months into the relationship, those days appear a distant memory. These days, he prefers spending more time with his friends (a few of them female), and it seems like he almost forces himself to meet you. Is this the end?
Maybe, maybe not. Perhaps he doesn’t have the guts to tell you it’s over, so it’s best that you confront him and find out whether he’s lost interest. That’s the only way you would know for sure. On the other hand, the initial excitement of being together might be wearing out (at least for him). Then maybe it’s time you get together and discuss how to take the relationship to the next level. Whatever the case, the only way to find out what’s wrong is to talk it out. Otherwise, the relationship will just meander, and the two of you will drift away without even knowing it.
**SEVEN FIRST SIGNS OF LOVE **
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If he called you out of the blue at work, home, wherever, just to say hi, then he’s definitely interested.
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He talks about you with friends/family.
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He maintains eye contact and focuses on you, ignores others around.
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He is almost always punctual, even early than the appointed time (he’s dying to be with you!!).
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He is not mad that you kept him waiting (this applies only for the first few dates!!).
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He is nice to your friends…
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He appreciates your views/hobbies etc.
HOW LONG WILL IT TAKE TO IDENTIFY Mr. RIGHT?
Well, you have been dating this Mr. Nice for some time now and everyone including mommy dearest feels he is a perfect match for you. But try hard as you may, you cannot decide on this one. Is he playing Jekyll and Hyde with me? Is he really as nice as he appears to be? Will I know the real him in 1 month? Will his true side come to the fore in 6 months? Is there such a thing as love at first sight? Such and similar questions keep haunting most of us, teetering on the threshold of ‘should I? Should I not?’
You may or may not be able to find a fool proof solution to these issues, but there are a few truths that hold true in almost all cases. For starters do not rush into a relationship. Take your time in knowing the person (time frame varies and there is no such thing as an ‘ideal time schedule’) before you commit yourself to the person.
Observing the person will help you understand his behavior and how he handles issues like stress, tension and pressures.
Quick engagements seldom if at all work, so try and avoid these if you can.
Time and instinct peppered with a healthy dose of common sense should help you decide if you are going to be ‘compatible’ with the other person.
- As a general observation, most couples can decide within six to eight months if they are compatible enough for the march to the altar.
GET THE (EYE)CING ON YOUR CAKE
Now this may sound a little ‘off the track’ if we can safely call it that, but the next time you are attracted to this smashing, tall, slim, handsome variety, gaze deep into his eyes, you’ll soon know what you mean to him (sorry, Bryan Adams, not trying to lift your lyrics).
Eyes are truly the mirrors of our souls and generally give away what facades try to hide. Business contacts are made with eyes and nose, but when things enter the love realm, a wider range of features become a part of the ‘amour orchestra’. A love interest is generally elicited with wide ranging mouth gestures, coupled with the essential eye contact.
Gazing at the person for a longer time than necessary or breaking off the gaze and looking back again at the same time are sure shot indications of ‘love’ interest.
Raising eyebrows is perhaps the most accepted definition of ‘wow, great to see you’, and when it comes to love, the eyebrow arch is translated into deeper rooted passions.
So remember the next time you want to make a love proclamation, bank on your expressions, after all `when it comes to love, actions speak louder than words!’
