Its generally not an issue in most cultures…but then in most cultures there tend not to be as many single mothers…
Just wondering if any guppies have or would date a single parent…so for a woman would you happily marry or date a man who has children from a previous partner and sees his ex regularly…and for men…would you happily date a woman who has children?
I know my question is vague cos there are factors like involvement of the other parent, childs age, number of children, family etc involved…but just wondering what peoples view is on the issue generally…
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I think there should be more of a push for it... i know a few young desi single mothers who would love to meet a nice guy, but dont even bother cus they think "whose gonna want to marry a single mother?" .. really its quite sad
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^ I think the above is true for a lot of women who are divorced and are not even trying to meet men. I know of a couple of girls myself and they just dont think they have anything to offer anymore...very tragic...
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^ its not about what they have to offer. Most of these girls are highly qualified... but their take on it is "who would want to marry them..."
its so darn hard to find a perspective rishta in the first place... whose gonna want them now?
so sad.. there should be a support network set up for people (both male/female single parents)
Naughty by Nature"
Firstly, I must admit that you have a pretty creative nick.
As for as your question is concerned, I think it's relative. In more civilized and modern countries such as Europe and North America where women have more rights to live the life they chose, it's normal to marry somewith with child(ren) and it go both ways.
Something most people don't realize is that people change over time and hence the relationships. In some cases, people are simply incompatible and in other cases arrogant. Unlike east, the people in west are more likely to be attracted by the phsyical attributes of a person rather than understanding the weaknesses and strenghts of their partners. Then there is a problem of understanding the fact that there is a price for everything in life. One can't simply be married and expect to live the life of single. How a woman deals with a man who doesn't help her keep the house clean eventually lead to a disastrous marriage.
What's the harm of marrying someone with a child? Doesn't a child deserve a better life? I don't believe it's child's fault that his parents cant get along. The poor sole is paying the price. Anyways, if there is a right person for a divorced or a widowed girl, it should be her right to live a life that she deserve.
Best,
Imran.
^ its not about what they have to offer. Most of these girls are highly qualified... but their take on it is "who would want to marry them..."
its so darn hard to find a perspective rishta in the first place... whose gonna want them now?
so sad.. there should be a support network set up for people (both male/female single parents)
What I mean by "what they have to offer" is exactly what you said. Despite their brilliant qualifications, being divorced/widowed and with a child, these women feel as if all their other positive attributes are going to automatically be overlooked. Again, they dont feel as if they have anything to offer a potential husband anymore.
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Hey what's wrong with dating a single parent? Someone please explain that to me.
Its generally not an issue in most cultures...but then in most cultures there tend not to be as many single mothers... Just wondering if any guppies have or would date a single parent...so for a woman would you happily marry or date a man who has children from a previous partner and sees his ex regularly...and for men...would you happily date a woman who has children? I know my question is vague cos there are factors like involvement of the other parent, childs age, number of children, family etc involved...but just wondering what peoples view is on the issue generally...
If we're compatible, his past life, children or frequency of seeing his ex are not factors for me.
Hey what's wrong with dating a single parent? Someone please explain that to me.
Absolutely nothing...
If we're compatible, his past life, children or frequency of seeing his ex are not factors for me.
I wouldnt care if he knew how to balance his life...children are a blessing.
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Its difficult enough to find a partner the first time around...the second time....well of course gets to be several times more difficult. Apart from the evident disadvantages (like being married once already, perhaps lot older than before, more set in your ways and then kids) the divorced person has probably very low self-confidence. As mentioned by PSquared you feel like you have very little to offer a potential partner.