I would like to know people’s views on dating… is it right, surely knowing someone better in contemplation of marriage/friend would be good for the obvious reasons, but for some reason muslim people consider this taboo…
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staying out of this one
sry i joked around...... leaving Dodge now before the bullets fly....
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In complete disregard for what my religion says i am completely in favour for cordial male and female relations. Of course I still agree that pre-martial sex is not allowed.
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I don't think it is bad as long as the intention behind is to get to know your prospective spouse. And as long as it is chaperoned. I never dated my husband but when he use to come visit me and my family . My parents would give us half an hour alone in the living room with interruptions every 10 minutes. We talked on the phone and emailed. This continued for 6 months before we got married. As long as the intentions are clean and so is the conversation.
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I think religously, the issues on na-mehram and mehram are a bit … well, its up to interpretation. You can show me a hadith that says a girl and a guy should not talk, and I can show you a hadith that tells of the Prophet suggesting to a guy that he should at least take a look at the lady he plans on marrying (she wore a veil, so his sister had seen her).
In our culture, if a guy and a girl talk, and its considered dating. 
First you have to define dating.
Should the couple see each other and speak to each other b4 marriage - yes absolutely. Men and women should be communicating with each other anyway.
Haven’t you seen even the most strict of the MMA guys speaking to fellow female guests on political talk shows on ARY/GEO?
Whatever people, I doubt you’re gonna go to hell if you speak to a person of the opposite sex. Its only healthy to do so.
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....the choice of a marriage partner is one of the most important decisions a person will make in his/her lifetime and i do not think it should be taken lightly nor left to chance or hormones.
It should be taken as seriously as any other major decision in life - with prayer, careful investigation, and family involvement and that's why i feel if one was able to date with intentions of marriage to he/she within the boundaries of the above would this not be ok.
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I don't believe in dating. Islam doesn't allow it. I'm tired right now so won't post ayahs or hadiths or such.
Anyway I don't have an issue if people talk to each other or get to know each other if they are planning to get married. That is different. Even then, it has to be definate that they will marry each other, and no physical stuff. Talking and seeing each other once in a while fine , "going out" in the "western" sense /regular dating . No.
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I don’t think there is anything wrong with it if it is a proper rishta or someone who you intend on marrying (and of course, the other party is well aware of the intentions too).
I’ve always been uncomfortable with the whole concept of casual dating. It’s just not my cup of tea and I don’t have the patience for it.
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Ok to be on topic..i believe dating is wrong, Islamically and personally. I don’t believe theres anything worse than getting attached or falling in love wiht someone before marriage; i’ve heard so many stories, gone through a bit perosnally, that its the worst thing to do. Many ppl who fall in love never get to marry because of parents or change of feelings etc etc… This is why Islam forbids dating and that kind of stuff, because it causes unnecessary hurt and pain that we are a hundred times better off without with in our lives…
This is how i feel right now; i may change m mind later on 
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by the way pcg, why did you kick me out of your journal. I clicked on it this morning and it said I was not permitted to view it. 
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Could someone define dating for me, please? It's such a broad topic that it would be hard to answer unless given the specifics.
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I guess seeing someone without “adult supervision” or permission.
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Atlanta, would you be setting any limits to what a couple do without the adult supervision?
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Acha, I’ve split the thread and moved it into the Society and Culture forum in case posters are wondering where the thread went. I don’t think it really belongs in the Religion forum.
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Mehnaz I swear I was just abt to ask you to do that :)
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You want my limits or our islamic bretherens limit.
Just NOT wearing a burkha can label you as being a slut by some of our islamically pure brothers and sisters.
I really don’t have any limits to their activities as long as they are adults. If I ever have a daughter and she wants to go on a date before she is 18, I would probably tell her what kinds of reprecussions she might face if she decides to get physically involved with the guy. I am not talking about reprecussion meaning I would beat the crap out of her, I am talking about pregnancy and psychological damages that she might face if the guy turns out to be a fraud. I would lay some hard rules as far as where they can go or what time she needs to be home. And ofcourse, if I have a son, I would send him out to spy on them.not because I don’t trust my daughter, I just don’t trust the son of a bitch that’s taking her out.
But when she crosses 18, she can date whoever she wants and do what ever she likes and I won’t be on their case. Hopefully by than, she would have a strong sense of responsibility and moral values from her parents and won’t do anything stupid. Ofcourse, if the guy turns out to be a asswipe, I would definitely get involved.
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how do i post a smilar caption under my every post...such as below.
"ab to aadat si hai mujhko aisay jeenay mai"
possibly the greatest line of a song in pak music history
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Like it or not but we are living in a very shallow society. If your daughter is not a showcase material then you will have a tough time doing the 'selling' job. Similarly, if your boy isn't 'successful' and has reached what we call the marriage age then you will have a difficult time finding a mate for him.
I say boys and girls should meet and figure out who they would be 'happy' (not adjust) with. As for what is dating and what are the limits, it varies from individual to individual. If you want to avoid physical relationship then nobody can force you to get into it..if you don't want to get emotionally involved then it's in your own hands. There is no book for how one should interact with opposite gender to find out what suits you. If you feel you haven't grown up yet to decide what's good for you then I'd advise you not to get involved and spare yourself the agony.
People who holdback such interactions cuz of different fears they should wake up and smell the coffee...do themselves a favour and think about their future. If you want to get married then make sound judgements and choices. Don't lock yourself in a room..cross your fingers and hope for the best. If you don't have a cousin or a family member your parents can hook you up with then go out and face the world. It shows your character, your understanding of what you want in life and you should be damn proud of it...no molvi should hold you back.