DATES

SheeN · June 15, 2007, 5:04pm

Do you think there’s too long or too short a period of time to wait until you set your wedding date once the proposal has occurred?

I don’t know why some people get engaged and it takes them years to get married. For instance, being engaged for like 6 years. Why do that ?

mizzrani · June 15, 2007, 5:17pm

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sheen ,

i ahve been engaged for 2 yrs n now gttin married in nov (inshallah ) ..d reason y my mum n dad gt me engaged at 17 ws becuz firstly i ws young to get married n secondly since me n my cousin liked each other n wud obviosuly wnt to tlk to each other n see each other they decided to mke it a formal thing so dt everyone knew dt we will gt married one day n dt wud justify it ... i hope u understand wt i mean ..

however being engaged for 6 yrs is tooo long in my opnion .. also i think mangnee in out culture is diff den in ne other cultures.
like in goray dey gt engaged like 2 weeks before wedding engagement means dey will gt married soon same with hindus . however dey r still in a relationship before dt i.e. seeing each other livin , livin , dating , however in us pakis d couple gets engaged n den r allowed to tlk to each other n stuff. ( nt live together or date ) lolz

hpe dt helps :)

aniiisa · June 15, 2007, 9:10pm

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every1s different.
i dnt agree with being engaged for too long. if for some reason u cant get married i.e for age etc i believe a nikaah shud be dun.

mizzrani · June 15, 2007, 9:35pm

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i agree every 1 different .. i dont bleve a nikaah shud be done strait away .. as mangnee u r gettin to knw each other and if sumfin goes ronf a mangnee can always be broken off however after nikaah gtina divorce becumz more painfull n harder ...

mayra_jootha · June 15, 2007, 10:38pm

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I'd rather be engaged at 20 and then get married like after 5/6 yrs, this way i get to know my hubby to be and can also be near to finishing my studies and the start of my career.

Croquet · June 16, 2007, 1:41am

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i find engagement futile.

lal_mirch · June 16, 2007, 3:19am

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The time between engagement and marriage is one of the most beautiful times of your life. Nothing wrong with extending it to six years. But it will be very hard for both partners.

Maham · June 17, 2007, 10:58am

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i m not being funnie abt this but i wud not want to be enganged for that long…not more than 6 months cuz i alwayz fear wat if during engagement time i realize i dun like the guy:teary1: i rather get married fast and than be left with no option:halo: i know i m stupid but i alwayz get scared

angeloftruth · June 17, 2007, 11:13am

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this 6 yrs is very too long.

hitchki · June 17, 2007, 12:56pm

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er this is why you should have long engagements.

Mrs_Saieen · June 17, 2007, 4:11pm

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One year max!

It really depends on the families as well....if thye let u meet it'll probably be more bearable to be engaged longer...but if ur not allowed to meet, it'd proly be unbearable...

pink_diamond · June 17, 2007, 6:16pm

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^ i would have thought the opposite...if the couple were engaged, and they were allowed to meet then then surely the enagement shud be more unbearable as there is more chance of the couple being "tempted"and would rather that they are married, whereas if theyre engaged and not meeting each other, then the risk is significantly less of giving into "tempatation" right?

back to the topic..i would try not to be engaged for more than 6-8 months. i dont think my parents would allow it for any longer, as they think its such a delciate time and if ur engaged for too long, the chance of an arguement is increased within the two famillies involved.