I wanted to see what things (restaurants, hanging with other couples, vacay) other married couples do when they spend time with each other. The Mrs. and I lead pretty busy lives, however we have tried to spend Friday night and Sunday afternoon together. Unfortunately our Friday nights have gone from going out to restaurants to picking up takeaway and watching a movie sitting our couch in the living room. Sundays are a lot better as we go to the Islamic center for salat and halaqas. We usually see our friends there.
Since we both work significant hours (she’s on call every other weekend, I grind it at the office on Saturdays), I feel like we don’t “go out” like we used to. Sleep > Entertainment. Wondering, if this is married life
LOL…my husband & I do the same thing! We’re usually too tired to go out. Once every 2-3 weeks we go out and join friends for dinner…and my husband will go hang out with his friends on his own once every 2-3 weeks…but that’s about it. It rare for us to go out more than this UNLESS there are special occasions like bday’s, weddings, multiple parties around Christmas etc.
We got into that rut too, but since last year we’ve been consciously planning more activities together. A big reason for that was both of us had started putting on weight - the dreaded post marriage “prosperity”
We do swimming, racquetball, hiking, running together whenever possible. Another passion we’ve discovered is photography. We love trying out new restaurants and traveling (lots of places to check out before having kids!) Can’t do much on weekdays, but try to make the most of weekends and holidays.
Of course there are those blissful weekends when we do nothing but meet friends and watch TV and eat
With kids it becomes a little tougher, either getting babysitter, or balancing couple time with family time etc.
As a couple we checked restaurants, weekend road trips, quick getaways on last minute deals, getting together with other friends and couples for concerts, going to see sports, boating, different festivals... Music, film festivals.
Weekends were always out late, sleeping in late...fun stuff
I must say that our best “date night” was actually “date week”…7 glorious days in Spain after our twins turned 1. My mom and sister graciously offered to take care of our 3 boys so that we could have a much needed getaway…I was expecting something nearby/semi local but my husband surprised me with the trip
Lately he’s been traveling alot for work, both overseas and stateside, so we haven’t had a proper date night in awhile, but we will be having a couples night out with 3-4 other married couples soon. We usually have dinner somewhere nice then end up at a hookah lounge when our group gets together.
Me and my hubby rarely get time.....but we still do small cute stuff for each other so we don't even feel like we are busy.... Like puttin cute notes for each other around the house Lolz.....
I guess, there is a certain phase in every couple’s life where their schedule is more like you mentioned.
The time I started feeling like that, I felt the kids missing from our life.
As a routine life makes you feel tired, routine date nights do too. Have dated a lot together and need something different and probably having kids can make some difference.
Oh and I know, after my kid turns 1, I am gonna miss the same date nights lol and would eagerly want someone to babysit my baby but at the moment, nothing sounds as much excited as having a baby to make a huge difference
Unfortunately, rightnow, I can not bring any change with the routine date nights as I am myself experiencing a lot of changes within me but I would love to spend an adventurous week with my hubby in future!!
pak-one, can you share some background? How long have you guys been married and do you have any kids?
I've been married 14 years and I too have a wife who is on call one weekend a month and one night a week, it gets pretty hectic with a 5 year old too.
We make time to be together, but all of us as a family. We do four 8-9 day vacations a year and that is a big help as far as our sanity but we do things together on a daily basis, we cook together, we clean together, we take care of the little one together and when she's down for the night, we hang out, watch movies, play games, chat. Married life seems to go in cycles, there are ups and downs.
We make time to be together, but all of us as a family. We do four 8-9 day vacations a year and that is a big help as far as our sanity but we do things together on a daily basis, we cook together, we clean together, we take care of the little one together and when she's down for the night, we hang out, watch movies, play games, chat. Married life seems to go in cycles, there are ups and downs.
Don't have kids yet and have been married less then a year so still we are enjoying the time together. I work from home regularly while hubby also gets to work from home as he please. His job is however very relaxed versus mine so he's the one setting up the date nights and vacation plans.
We go and eat out during weekends and middle of the week to get out of the regular routine, every other month we go out vacationing. He's into music and sports so we have attended like most of the weekly concerts and games in our area.
He has the boys night out twice a month and I also go out with friends regularly, we go to the gym together, attend all the on going muslim/desi activities going on and are up for anything like BBQ, out doors, last minute vacations etc.
We just went on a long drive(5 hr) just to see the changing colors along the way lol
I guess it's going to take couple of more years to be bored of each other, we never dated before marriage so enjoying all of that after marriage.
pak-one, can you share some background? How long have you guys been married and do you have any kids?
I've been married 14 years and I too have a wife who is on call one weekend a month and one night a week, it gets pretty hectic with a 5 year old too.
We make time to be together, but all of us as a family. We do four 8-9 day vacations a year and that is a big help as far as our sanity but we do things together on a daily basis, we cook together, we clean together, we take care of the little one together and when she's down for the night, we hang out, watch movies, play games, chat. Married life seems to go in cycles, there are ups and downs.
Been married for about 1.5 years, no kids.
How are you guys able to do 4 vacations a year? Coordinating one vacation has been a challenge. I think sharing the errands is a great idea.
I'm definitely looking forward to next weekend -- a quick getaway.
pak-one, can you share some background? How long have you guys been married and do you have any kids?
I've been married 14 years and I too have a wife who is on call one weekend a month and one night a week, it gets pretty hectic with a 5 year old too.
We make time to be together, but all of us as a family. We do four 8-9 day vacations a year and that is a big help as far as our sanity but we do things together on a daily basis, we cook together, we clean together, we take care of the little one together and when she's down for the night, we hang out, watch movies, play games, chat. Married life seems to go in cycles, there are ups and downs.
Friday night and saturday are official date nights/days at ours (unless I'm on call). Depending on the weather season and mood we do different stuff, it could be anything from just chilling in our pjs, cooking together, watching a movie at home. We're big on watching serials, well I'm and hubby doesn't complain ;), some catching up is done there. Going out with friends, long walks on the beach and just loads of random talks :). Sometimes we've our son babysat by my mother and at other times we just chill the three of us.
We also take multiple overseas trips yearly, the benefits of living in EU. Sometimes it is just the two of us, sometimes it is with friends and sometimes we go as a family. I think they are always refreshing for us a couple.
Once every 2-3 weeks we go out and join friends for dinner…and my husband will go hang out with his friends on his own once every 2-3 weeks…but that’s about it. It rare for us to go out more than this UNLESS there are special occasions like bday’s, weddings, multiple parties around Christmas etc.
but I would love to spend an adventurous week with my hubby in future!!