the problem is that I am comfortable getting up and mixing in and dancing as a big group I am just not up for dancing on a single dance infront of everyone.. that's beyond my comfort zone now.. I have nicely try to say to her "we'll see" with a smile and anyone smart enough would understand.. i guess I am trying to avoid having to give her a straight answer because I know it's going to cause a huge deal with them and my family..The thing that gets to me is that noone of these girls showed up to my mehndi.. but they expect me to get out of my comfort zone and dance..ahhh!!
OH PUHLEEZE. Forget ever trying to please people liek that. they don't deserve it. They're not worth the time you took typing all this up.
Just be straight up and say NO. Or better yet...get your husband to tell them. :D
**My family disapproves of dancing so it is pretty easy for me to say NO!! when a friend forces me to and you have to say it now so that it doesn't create a scene when you suddenly say No at the event. **
just tell them str8..coz if u decide o tell at the last min theyr gna think ur makin sum sort of excuse up!ur not sayin anything thats unheard of so they should understand how u feel!
on my didters mehndi..even tho hers wz a joint mehndi..we did all the rasms and everything..then wen it came to dancing we threw all the men out in2 another room that we had bookd out and that worked out pretty well!
No one in my immediate family dances with men present but we do dance when there’s no men around. On the hand my extended family have no qualms about dancing in front of men. So, of course there’s aways some sort of ‘debate’ over this issue at mixed mendhi events. It gets annoying when they know I don’t dance in front of men yet they try to drag me onto the dance floor. And these dances aren’t exactly innocent dandiya dances either, some are so suggestive they leave very little to the imagination.
Then they have the nerve to say I’m being snooty and I’m ruining the event. Well, if being snooty means I won’t gyrate my hips in front of random men whilst being filmed by a leering cameraman then so be it
Did you figure out what to do? If you are really that uncomfortable, just say a plain and simple no. Otherwise, if telling the men to leave would help the situation, make that known to everyone!
