^ Look, PM........we get it. This ABCD guy is a jerk and has no respect for his dad. BUT YOU CAN'T CHANGE HIM. NOBODY CAN CHANGE HIM. HE HAS TO REALIZE THAT ON HIS OWN.
In the mean time, what are YOU going to do about the situation besides complaining? There is an innocent old man who has a dirty stain on his reputation and is not allowed to freely spend time with his own grandchildren. So, what are you going to do to help the situation?
You have a good relationship with the bhaabi right? Meet with her in private and tell her that you have a lot of respect for her family and that you feel it your duty to share something important and that you hope it won't affect their relationship with you. And tell her the truth. Free this old man from his misery! And tell the bhabi that you are trusting that she will handle the situation without involving him in a manner that will make you uncomfortable. Tell her that you told her this information because she's like a sister to you and you think it's unfair for an old man not to be with his grandchildren.
Maybe the bhabi won't tell the ABCD that you told her. Maybe she'll just be more careful around the ABCD in the future.....and start allowing the grandfather to hang out with the kids again. She can do all this without creating a scene.
you know what I never read your post cuz they are too long, But after reading these two posts . I got to admit you make so much sense that its scary. hmmmmmm