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do they still run that show in Pakistan?

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some pakistani hijaabis in my uni dont like me, i thought I was being paranoid but after 6 years I am pretty sure.

Whats weird is, the pakistani hijabis dislike me and the non pakistani hijabis like me. random

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Few years back, I went to hubby's friend's wedding and there were two groups, men in both groups were hubby's friends from uni. One group had bearded guys with hijabi wives and the other group had non-bearded guys with non-hijabi wives.

Bearded group was all serious and stuff and the non-bearded one were laughing and cracking jokes.

I think that was the most weirdest and saddest experience I had.

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That is kinda weird and sad hareem!

At uni one of the most annoying things I have come across is.

If a hijabi girl has a boyfriend its okay, if a non hijabi girl has a boyfriend she is automaticaly sleeping with him and a ho bag.

Why is it the pakistani community that thinks like this :(

I know I am generalising people please please dont take offence its just what I have come across at my university city.

The middle eastern hijabis dont have this mind set at all!

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Lol inspiron, I thought it was the other way round. From what I've seen, if a hijabi girl hangs around with a guy (we never find out if the guy is a bf), then it is VERY BAD. If a non-hijabi girl has a bf, then it's just BAD.

And, Hareem, hijabi people and bearded people can crack jokes too, you know?? :p

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:rotfl:

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I think maybe it depends from place to place?

In my year there is a girl who wears hijab and has a boyfriend and they are always seen together, late at night etc etc and no one says anything. Because she is hijabi everyone is like oh they just sit and do dua together or something.

I had a crush on some guy, and the news spread that I was getting it on with him. Similar happened to a couple of friends. fun times.

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haan tou what happened to them on the wedding? :confused:

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:cb:

Inspiron, you’re cute, lol. Rule number 1 - don’t tell people about your crushes. :slight_smile: And yeah, I think you’re right, it all depends where you are.

Maybe they were talking about you…:wink: However, on a serious note, those people were probably talking about politics. People don’t need to be laughing and joking all the time, they can be serious at a wedding if they start discussing intellectual stuff.

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:omg::omg:

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THIS is what I miss the most since I stared covering. I miss laying out in the sun and feeling the grass on the back of my neck.

Reasons to get married:
#1 So I have someone to do my hair for
#2 So we can get a house with a huge backyard, so I can lay in the grass :blush:

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Me too..

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Hareem and Gaia, at what age did you start wearing hijab and did you always dress modestly before that?

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hmmm… I was feeling really depressed and felt like an outcast and I blamed it on my headscarf otherwise it’s true sun and wind can be seen and felt in your backyard.

I don’t know, I just felt it stopped me from things I wanted to do (like going to the opera).

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Yep, I always always dressed modestly, even now I don't wear short sleeves, low-cut tops, too tight dresses....with tights and skinnies always wear knee or calf length tops/dresses.

I used to wear a chador in my village in Pakistan and when in city I used to wrap a duppatta around my neck.... I started covering my head (hijabi style) after my first kid was born, around the age of 20.

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It's been almost 5 years so like when I was 18. And no I didn't always dress modestly. Maybe I'll blog about it one day.

If you felt like an outcast, than I think you made the right decision in-terms of not wearing it. You can pick it up at anytime, as long as your heart and soul is into it. But the most important thing is to feel powerful with your hijab. In my pov not all women need hijab to be good Muslims. Like my Mom doesn't wear it, butsome how HER life style made me want to improve myself.

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did you start on your own accord?

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I was living with my MIL and SILs and they all wore head scarves and in the beginning did try to make me wear it but I never agreed with their interpretation of hijab. But my inlaws are fairly religious, they always used to play lectures of scholars and stuff in the house and after my husband kept a beard I felt he was embarrassed of me for not covering my head in front of his friends, but obviously no one ever forced me.....so it was sort of my own decision.

I don't wear a scarf now and when I go out with hubby I don't feel odd, though I cover my head if we are going to a religious gathering or a religious family's house. But now that I'm a mature woman, I can make my own decisions without anyone's influence. So I started wearing it, took it off after 7 years....but who knows I might wear it again one day.

But I've learnt one thing in this process which is never to judge others based on their outlook (hijabi or non-hijabi). :)

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Thanx Hareem. I think its a very important point that Gaia brought up about feeling comfortable and powerful in the hijab and if u didn't feel that then u definitely done the right thing; u need to find who you are first. However, for what its worth I have always admired u for wearing a hijab. Personally, I have a few reservations about it but religion in general is a bit confusing for me (atm). However, I too hope I can make sense of things and understand the reason behind why a women needs to cover her head. Thank you for being honest in ur replies. x