Re: Damn friends father.......
I don't think having discreet security will cause an issue. If anyone who is not on the list attempts to attend the wedding.......they will be removed and it will ONLY BE HUMILATING for the INTRUDER to be kicked out in front of everyone. It's not the bride who will be embarrassed. It will be the uninvited person who is creating such a scene who will be embarrassed. And everyone in the desi community knows that the girl's father is frickin loser....so if they see him being kicked out.....they won't blame her. He's earned his stinking rep.
And in most places (official buildings, concerts, clubs, schools)....security manages things in a calm manner. It's foolish for a girl not to enjoy a wedding the way she wants to for fear of embarrassment. The security is there to prevent the more **SEVERE **embarrassment of the father entering the marriage hall and destroying everything. It's a small price to pay when you consider the other consequences.