should you try daily or every other day to conceive…
i know so many people who have conceived in the first month or 2, ivebeen married now 3 and half months, and nothing! I KNOW its not enuff time anyway, but still feels really weird now. almost like ive been trying for years, each time i come on my period i feel so hollow. im not obsessed, but i would love some advice…
thanks
and as u know, i did an ovulating test, and i was apperently about to ovulat eor whatever in the next 24 to 36 hours…( ON friday)
nadz123 seriously woman..... I have never replied to any of your topics but this one forced me to....
Enjoy yaar.... this time that both of you have together without a baby ...without a care in the world...dress up...party ... chill and enjoy...
The more you think and plan and do.... it will wreak havoc on your system.... and not to mention spoil things between you and hubby and then getting intimate will not be pleasuresome.... all it will be is a chore.... and men don't like chores...
Try getting the book Taking Charge of your fertility.... and honestly take a deep breath... you are talking about feeling hollow, woman u must still be giddy from being in love with your newly married life and hubby ....
Nothing kills baby making like a woman stressing about getting pregnant...and remember once the baby is here ....there are no returns allowed....and you never can go back to the couple mode...
There's mixed feelings about this, but if you're both young and healthy and with no known reproductive issues, do it as much as you want and don't think to much about it. ENJOY!
I believe docs say that every other day is sufficent as sperm can live up to 48 hours. So there is no need to do it every day when you are ovulating and you can try starting from day 12, 14, 16, 18 of your cycle. unless you want to
** moving thread to H&F (more of a health issue than parenting and you can find Docs to answer your question)
You ovulate the most the week after your period, thats the best time to conceive.
i mean as soon as your period finishes the day after for a whole week is the best chance u have to get preg; sorry cant explain it better.
i understand wot ur going through! me and my husband didnt want to start trying until 6months into our marriage, so wen we did i was surprised and frustrated wen i didnt get pregnant straight away... it took me 8 months! and trust me those 8 months felt like yrs, i used to cry wen i wud come on becos it felt like something was wrong, i went to the docs who sed it was jus too early, cos wer new to this our bodies take time adjusting, neway wot did it for me was:
do 'it' on the first night after ur period is over
continue every other day (they say these first 2 weeks is when ur most fertile)
use an ovulation kit (it worked for me)
try not to obsess! (i no how hard that is)
read surah Maryam (its not that long)
recite (tasbi) 'Al Baari'u' (The giver of life) & 'Al Mu-saw-wirru' (The Fashioner of shapes) as many tms as u can in a day
inshallah when the time is right it will happen for u..alhamdulilah i am now 4 months pregnant but afrter going through it i would ser say enjoy ur time together (this time wont come back)! pregnancy itself is really hard so enjoy being married, go out etc & wen its meant to be inshallah it will happen xx
Here’s my authorized prescription: I say once a month for next 6 months. :halo:
Only 3 months and you are worried? Why the rush?
Also, it just happens accidentally. If you sit and count the days, months, hours, seconds - you will be just adding stress… and it actually will stop you from becoming preggo.
this is a good topic. I really wish you the best of luck nadz123 in getting pregnant. We can try all we like but it all depends on whether Allah wants it to happen. Thats my take on it.
when we got married i thought of not gettin pregnent for a year but when 6 months went we were ike ok but people around us started askin mu hubby whats the matter things like that people made us so frustrated that we thought of it and i got in 2 months and i was not in the mood of getting pregnent no stress nothing thats y i got pregnent so i got pgrenent after 8 months of my marrige and the time change i got less attention from my hubby and when my baby was born i got the least of the attemtion of my hubbbyyy sooo plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz enjoyyy this time willll not come again as every one sayyyyyyy plzzzzz... but INshAllah u will get and one more theing when 6 months later i went to the gynacolojist she just told we same dont take stressssss thsi is the biggest enemy and she said chiilllll its not been years and ur worried and i just got embarassed on it ...she said we see about a year if u don get pregnent then we can see if there is any problem other wise go and enjoy.:)
IGNORE THEM!!
If they are so eager for kids, tell them to go have their own
Regarding how often, if a man has a low sperm count, they say to not do it more than once every second day, to give time for the sperm count to build up. But if he has a normal and healthy sperm count, then everyday is fine. But of course unless he's has a sperm analysis already done, which usually isnt done unless a couple has been trying unsucessfully for over a year, you wont have any idea of how his sperm count is
Being aware of your cervical fluids will help you have a better idea of when you are most fertile, that way you can pin it down to your 2-3 most fertile days. But like everyone said, you have only been married a few months, dont rush it now, especially not just to shut everyone else up. You want kids, inshallah one day you'll have them. For now just relax and enjoy your marriage. Now is not the time for you to be obsessing and counting days, if you are doing it at least every other day during your most fertile week, just leave it at that and dont work yourself up to much over it for now
