Re: Dads … where are you?
You have so much control on fate of someone that you can train them to tell right from wrong. If they still digress and are successful in hiding that digression you cannot do anything about it. Try to do your best, rest is upon them and their fate. Just be vigilant. Keep your eyes and ears open. Look for clues of drug use, drinking , sneaking out. Do not trust the kids too much for them to do the right things.
These two kids were raised in same home, by same parents. They had same friends went to same schools , had same amount of supervision, enjoyed same kind of liberties. I never compared one’s habits, and achievements with the other. I never rewarded one more than the other. I do not think it as my failure. I have no regrets, I do not feel that I could have done something different to prevent this outcome.
And I do not consider achievements of older son as my achievements. He worked for it and earned it.