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Because Magazines and Media are commercial. they want to cater to masses. So I understand why are they biased but its first hand comments from people you meet which make me 
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I am going to take a step further and say it’s not just enough for Dads to do “fun” things with their children. Tucking them in and walking them to school and hanging out is great but getting involved in the day to day parenting is very important
Who are their friends? What aspects of school is he/she having trouble with at school? Who’s on their IM buddy list? What was the hardest/best part of their day? Is your daughter having trouble with self esteem? Is he/he lacking manner or etiquette?
The most absurd thing that I heard a year back was a woman telling me about her ILs throwing a fit because he husband took their daughter to use the bathroom while she was doing something else. Mind you - the child is 3. 
Kuddos to all the dad that put it the effort. You children will love you for it.
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the earliest memory i have of my dad and I was when he used to make my pigtails for school. he used to twist my hair into little ringlets. hehe.
i will never forget that and cherish it.
children do remember the little things as well.
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I remember when my mom was away for couple of months, I was living with my dad and he used to make me dhai bhally everday for 2 weeks because I loved those!!! and then 2 weeks later, he told me to eat something else. :D
I was closer to dad than my mom until he passed away.. I hadnt even turned 18 yet and I thought that was the end of my life.. I didnt even think that there was a life without dad! well I didt mean to derail this thread but njgal's reply reminded me how involved our dad was in our lives and Alhamdulillah both of us sisters were blessed with very similar husbands!!
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My dad taught me how to cook gosht and make chai. 
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I think my earliest memory of my dad is when I was in kindergarten, the teachers called my parents in because my face was red and scratched, and they were gonig to take me to the nurses office. At the time I thought I would be getting a shot so I started crying but I didn’t tell em why. My dad came and explained to the teachers that I’d been brushing my hair on my face cz I wanted to do it myself…thats wy my face was red (Its true btw :o )
Another time I told the class “My dad wears a skirt at home!” It was a dhoti. Which, coincidentally, he stopped wearing around that time 
and yet antoher time, because I lived in a 95% black area and I was still confused as to what we were :o I said “MY DADS BLACK” cz…u know..he was dark skinned.
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Hear Hear!!
Its about time yar!!
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The general perception of dads being a filler might be there but unfortunately media took it to another height. If you look at shows like everybody loves raymond, simpsons, family guy, and many others- dads are presented as goofy, somewhat insensitive and oblivious to all the real life responsibilities. It is somehow expected from them to behave like that, just like it is expected from a blond to be dumb
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I like the turn this thread has taken, it's really nice hearing from y'all (specially the ladies) what you remember most about your dads. I hope and pray to be there for my little girl every step of the way, above all, I want her to be happy with herself and her life and to be a good honest believing girl. Girls are such a blessing. Alhamdulillah.
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Awesome threadd!!!!!!!!!!!!
I love it!
Once when I was around 5 or so...one of my dad's friends saw me getting all clingy with my dad. His friend told him "larkiyon ko is tarha mat lagaya karo apne saat".
Yeah, that was the last day that guy came by our house. :)
My niece is SO attached to her dad its amazing. He is her hero and her face lights up when my BIL is with her. Mashallah.
Mothers make a difference, of course. But sadly aahmed bhai, there are a lot of dads out there who don't realize the impact they make on their kids.
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My dad taught me how to drive, pushed me to get my first job, told me to always put myself first and despite all my mom advice not to spoil us - he did.